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Sorry I Don't Do Games Well
If you work long enough in a business environment, hopefully you catch onto the various personalities, such as those individuals that are in it to win it, others that are just getting by and the rest somewhere inbetween or worse need to go. I see nothing wrong with being an overachiever, as long as you are not crushing those in your wake in order to climb your way to the top. If you get to the top with good, honest work ... you will find me in the line to congratulate you every time. What I do not care for are those types that have to push others down in order to make themselves look good. I have no patience for it. When I was younger in this business, I would just step back with my toes aching from where they trampled them and was too in shock to say anything at all. But of course, with age and experience I began to realize that while I am considered a very nice person, it does not mean I have to be anyone's doormat. Thus, the lesson a young woman found out when she "tried" to make me look bad by an exaggeration to our respective Supervisors. I did not correct her in front of them, but I let her know I did not appreciate it. My direct Supervisor already caught onto her antics, and does not care for her personality. I sent her a side email and called her on it. She was shocked someone actually called her on the behavior and of course tried to pass it off that I was being overly sensitive and she'd have to be careful how she says things. I simply smiled back and laughed and said, "well maybe you should, and I'm not upset but it seems you are and I was just letting you know I disagreed with you." She walked away in a huff. She likes to play games and I don't play games. I don't have the time for one thing. I hope she'll think twice before trying to make me look incompetent again, because if she did not know it before she now does, even though I'm nice - I will defend myself.
Lots to do. Furniture people called and will be here between 9-1 (Husband said more like 1) to fix the new bedroom suite. I need to get a shower and dressed before they come and start on "homework". My life for the weekend. I need to go shopping too and to the bank.
Busy busy and more busy.
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I've always been fortunate in the places I worked and the folks I worked around. But lately I've had some issues with someone trying to play some games with me. Like you, I confronted it directly and calmly. Although my pet peave has always been people who play emotional or mental games. I have a lot of mule in me and when you try to manipulate me I tend to balk. ;o) I just do my work, my day to the best of my ability and be as good to them as possible. You know the verse about heaping coals???
There are many things I love and enjoy about the place I work. But I must say, on an individual level I have never seen as much blaming, finger pointing and such in any office I have ever worked in before.
Barbara -
Hi Lynne,
I still think you were being a tad too nice to this lady. Often, I've noticed, these types will "target" certain individuals out of jealously. My guess is that you are well-respected by your management and she's a bit jealous. You might want to try spicing-up your tactics with her with a few simple phrases such as "You know, it's not that you've upset me, but I know some of the management is a bit concerned about your approach." Then, she'll push -- who, what do you mean, etc. -- but don't give any details ("Oh, it's not important, I'm just trying to give you a friendly word of advice ..."). If she's anything like some of the "cut-throats" I've come across, she'll stew for days over the notion that she, herself, might be losing face ...
Best,
Marty -
It's amazing how these people end up getting their feathers ruffled when they are confronted. If it was as innocent as they portray, they would give it a second thought. (Hugs) Indigo
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I agree with you; I'm not a game player either; don't know why people have to do it too; they should just want to do a good job no matter what
enjoy your weekend
I'll catch back up with you in about 10 days or so; taking a mini-vacation and then moving :)
betty
5/5/08 10:04 PM
Joann