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Sunday, May 11, 2008
4:04:00 PM EDT
I wish I could say it was a Happy Mother's day at our house. But after checking emails from the school and getting on Edline and seeing TheTeen's grades, our day took a dive. I won't go into all the details but let's she say she has pretty much lost everything but her identity. There are other issues too that I will not discuss on here on the journal, but there is way more to the story.
She is going to have to learn responsibility. We thought she was responsible and gave her much leeway and freedom with friends, computer, phone, even her bed time. We've told her that we will trust her until given reason not to. She always told us before when she was worried about her grades. I do not even think she has been worried about them at all. So her life has dramatically changed as of this morning. (No pc, no ipod, no socializing, no seeing boyfriend, new cell phone taken away, possibility of not getting to cheerlead as certain grades must be maintained, no shut door to room, bedtime will be set. Threat of having her private education taken away too as we are not spending $6,000/ year on school if she is not going to apply herself and cannot appreciate it.) She has gone from having the world at her fingertips to having to earn it all back. Once she shows responsibility she will gain it all back - IF it can be maintained back. I have no control over the cheerleading rules. And I have no control over whether she is to stay on High Honors track. I can't control who gives her scholarships or not. It's not for me. I told her....all this is for you....this move to MJTown was for you.....so that you could have all these things at your finger tips. I've told her...this is all up to her. It's her world....her education, her life, her college, her career. I've explained now that we have bought this house, we'll not be able to send her to just any college. For it to be special she'll have to earn a scholarship or help pay for it. Heck I paid for a large portion of my own....especially after school was over and all those loans came in. I wanted better for her. But it is all her choice. The effort is hers. I can only control what she WILL NOT LONGER DO with her time. Once she improves, her life will come back. But right now it's going to feel like she is in prison. She is not used to this. But that is something that should have been pondered the past 6 weeks when she was goofing off or ignoring her work and responsibilities.
No we are not being hard. We have to get her attention. We have provided well for her and she has had it easy. Life will be a shocker for her if we do not nip this behavior in the bud now. Because when we are gone, there might not be anyone there to pick up the slack and be responsible for her. We all have to work hard for what we get. That includes her.
Sure we have moved and that is a big stress and there have been other issues too, but you know, that is not an excuse. If I can move, work, and go to school, have a social life, and still make good grades, then I am to expect that A-B student who only goes to school and hardly lifted a box during the move, can surely maintain at least decent C average at worst. Yes, right now we have two failing grades and one C...the rest are A's and B's...but this is unacceptable and totally NOT her.
I am very angry and so is Hubby.
Changing the subject, we tried out the new church today and we liked it very much. Of course, TheTeen did not like it b/c she didn't know anyone and she said it was boring. As for Hubby and I we were pleasantly surprised. We liked the Sunday school class as it reminded us a lot of those we have been in at our old church. It was a "real life lessons" class taught by one of the elders, I think. Straight from the Bible. He was interesting, engaged folks, gave lots of examples, was very humorous. George kept making comments about how the class was so fitting. So this is good.
Church itself was good too. The auditorium was pretty and that is not a reason for going, but if you have to sit somewhere for an hour, it sure is a plus. It even has windows on the sides...and it has powerpoint like our old church. The sermon was great. Hubby and I both got a lot out of the class and the sermon today. So I take this as a sign that we would have our church home if wedidn't like the others better. The discussion was held in the car of whether we would go back there or whether we would look more. I believe Hubby and I could be resolved to keep going back even though our plan was to check at least 3 to 4 of them out. But we liked it so much I hate to miss next week. LOL But....TheTeen really wants to go to the church where her friend goes to and we had promised her we would try it out. So we will hold true to her word. However, the larger youth group, I'm thinking that she would get to know really well and learn to love. They would have lots of activities. She will be in on the decision but I can tell you it might be hard to beat the one we went to today.
After church we ate at the Mexican restaurant here, mine and TheTeen's choice. I am so full and can't imagine eating again today but we are going to eat another very big meal today in not to long of time from now as we are going out to eat with Granny and Granda. LOL
Oh and then home from church....Tugie had left us a big surprise in the sun room. She must have had some tummy issues. I still have had to get mad with her b/c I want her to know this is unacceptable. She rarely does this, as she normally loves to go outside. We've not missed taking her out. But I believe she had an issue today. So I can truly say that this day has not been a very good mother's day. I am disappointed in both my girls right now.
Well, I am going to try to work on my discussion question here....so I can try to finish my class too.
We are still concerned over Bob, but we are not taking her to the vet yet. She has walked around some today. Yesterday she didn't move much. We'll keep watching. We just can't have a big vet bill right now. So if she is not in much pain, we'll see what she does and maybe she will feel better soon.
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Sorry to Say....
I wish I could say it was a Happy Mother's day at our house. But after checking emails from the school and getting on Edline and seeing TheTeen's grades, our day took a dive. I won't go into all the details but let's she say she has pretty much lost everything but her identity. There are other issues too that I will not discuss on here on the journal, but there is way more to the story.
She is going to have to learn responsibility. We thought she was responsible and gave her much leeway and freedom with friends, computer, phone, even her bed time. We've told her that we will trust her until given reason not to. She always told us before when she was worried about her grades. I do not even think she has been worried about them at all. So her life has dramatically changed as of this morning. (No pc, no ipod, no socializing, no seeing boyfriend, new cell phone taken away, possibility of not getting to cheerlead as certain grades must be maintained, no shut door to room, bedtime will be set. Threat of having her private education taken away too as we are not spending $6,000/ year on school if she is not going to apply herself and cannot appreciate it.) She has gone from having the world at her fingertips to having to earn it all back. Once she shows responsibility she will gain it all back - IF it can be maintained back. I have no control over the cheerleading rules. And I have no control over whether she is to stay on High Honors track. I can't control who gives her scholarships or not. It's not for me. I told her....all this is for you....this move to MJTown was for you.....so that you could have all these things at your finger tips. I've told her...this is all up to her. It's her world....her education, her life, her college, her career. I've explained now that we have bought this house, we'll not be able to send her to just any college. For it to be special she'll have to earn a scholarship or help pay for it. Heck I paid for a large portion of my own....especially after school was over and all those loans came in. I wanted better for her. But it is all her choice. The effort is hers. I can only control what she WILL NOT LONGER DO with her time. Once she improves, her life will come back. But right now it's going to feel like she is in prison. She is not used to this. But that is something that should have been pondered the past 6 weeks when she was goofing off or ignoring her work and responsibilities.
No we are not being hard. We have to get her attention. We have provided well for her and she has had it easy. Life will be a shocker for her if we do not nip this behavior in the bud now. Because when we are gone, there might not be anyone there to pick up the slack and be responsible for her. We all have to work hard for what we get. That includes her.
Sure we have moved and that is a big stress and there have been other issues too, but you know, that is not an excuse. If I can move, work, and go to school, have a social life, and still make good grades, then I am to expect that A-B student who only goes to school and hardly lifted a box during the move, can surely maintain at least decent C average at worst. Yes, right now we have two failing grades and one C...the rest are A's and B's...but this is unacceptable and totally NOT her.
I am very angry and so is Hubby.
Changing the subject, we tried out the new church today and we liked it very much. Of course, TheTeen did not like it b/c she didn't know anyone and she said it was boring. As for Hubby and I we were pleasantly surprised. We liked the Sunday school class as it reminded us a lot of those we have been in at our old church. It was a "real life lessons" class taught by one of the elders, I think. Straight from the Bible. He was interesting, engaged folks, gave lots of examples, was very humorous. George kept making comments about how the class was so fitting. So this is good.
Church itself was good too. The auditorium was pretty and that is not a reason for going, but if you have to sit somewhere for an hour, it sure is a plus. It even has windows on the sides...and it has powerpoint like our old church. The sermon was great. Hubby and I both got a lot out of the class and the sermon today. So I take this as a sign that we would have our church home if wedidn't like the others better. The discussion was held in the car of whether we would go back there or whether we would look more. I believe Hubby and I could be resolved to keep going back even though our plan was to check at least 3 to 4 of them out. But we liked it so much I hate to miss next week. LOL But....TheTeen really wants to go to the church where her friend goes to and we had promised her we would try it out. So we will hold true to her word. However, the larger youth group, I'm thinking that she would get to know really well and learn to love. They would have lots of activities. She will be in on the decision but I can tell you it might be hard to beat the one we went to today.
After church we ate at the Mexican restaurant here, mine and TheTeen's choice. I am so full and can't imagine eating again today but we are going to eat another very big meal today in not to long of time from now as we are going out to eat with Granny and Granda. LOL
Oh and then home from church....Tugie had left us a big surprise in the sun room. She must have had some tummy issues. I still have had to get mad with her b/c I want her to know this is unacceptable. She rarely does this, as she normally loves to go outside. We've not missed taking her out. But I believe she had an issue today. So I can truly say that this day has not been a very good mother's day. I am disappointed in both my girls right now.
Well, I am going to try to work on my discussion question here....so I can try to finish my class too.
We are still concerned over Bob, but we are not taking her to the vet yet. She has walked around some today. Yesterday she didn't move much. We'll keep watching. We just can't have a big vet bill right now. So if she is not in much pain, we'll see what she does and maybe she will feel better soon.
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So sorry about the Teen. We are having grade issues right now also. Yes I know they over whelm them at the end of the year but frankly I do not accept that as an excuse.
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I am sorry you had to deal with these issues on Mothers day. She will be all the better for the lessons you are teaching her. I know many kids that could use parents like you.
Best wishes.
Barbara -
Sorry your Mother's Day was clouded over with these issues. Glad you liked the new church, though. Have a good week!
Pam -
I'm sure this is tough for all of you. I'm sorry you had to go through it...especially on Mother's Day. Can she bring up her grades enough before the end of the year? Lots of Love!
5/14/08 4:48 PM
Lisa