The Life and Times of a Super Step Mom

3:31:20 PM CDT
Feeling Quiet

Well, I haven't been on this page in a while and I thought I would update it.  I have been really busy these days.  We sold our home and I am now in the process of waiting on my new home to be finished and I am living with my in laws!

I wanted to let all my friends at PottersRealm.com that I enjoy moderating and discussing all the Harry Potter books and the possible future outcome of the last book which is still unnamed!

Izzy graduated kindergarden and we are thrilled.  They did a small play called "Summer Vacation" and she sang and danced.  She is a talented little girl!  She won 6 awards and did very well.  She is an excellerated reader and her latest conquest in books is Harry Potter.   I wonder who she gets that from, huh?  Her mom came and my husband stated that she was mad because I put my arm around him.  I knew she had started acting funny, but I did not realize that I had put my arm around MY husband.  My mind was solely on our daughter and most of the time I was taking pictures!  Forgive me for showing affection towards my family!  It just drives me crazy!  I wish she would just mind her own business.  She would be better off than sticking her nose into mine!  Actually, I'm surprised that she showed up at all!  I figured she would come up with some excuse.  But for Izzy's sake, I am glad she came.  At least she will have that knowledge when she grows up!

 

I'll put some pictures of Izzy's graduation on here! 

 

 

 

 

 

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6:01:04 PM CST

I have absolutely lost it.  I hate Valentines day.  My husband's thoughts of romantic was a trip to the dentist to have a tooth pulled and come home to hand me a Xbox game. Granted, I love Harry Potter, but the last think I want to do right now is sit and play that game.  I want roses and chocolates, make love in front of the fire place.  God help me, that would be romance. 

Today I was informed by Izzy that her mom kept my husbands wedding band.  He doesn't know that I know this, but he also thinks that she has no idea where it is.  He took it off and flung it at her when she told him she wanted to go live with another man.  Well, apparently she found it and has been keeping it.  (Sigh)

My brother and his girlfriend are getting married and they had their shower this weekend.  That was fun.  She is so goofy it's ridiculous.  And it started snowing!  Wonderful!  We haven't seen snow in the south since 1993 and that snowed folks in for  weeks.

Well, I have a ton to say and not enough time to say it.  Will get back to you later!

God bless!

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5:31:13 PM CST
Feeling Happy

I do believe I could be bipolar sometimes.  Really.  Just this morning I was crying my eyes out about having a baby and this evening I'm completely okay.  Weird, huh?  I have gotten the mommy duties out of the way for right now.  The homework is done, the bath has been given and the popcorn has been made for the evening movie.  Izzy is sitting in her room right now watching Barbie and the Magic of Pegeasus.  It is about the eighth time since I bought it the other night.  As long as she isn't chasing the cat around the house I don't care.  Poor Dorito...she doesn't know if she is coming or going. 

Dorito likes to play fetch.  Yes, a cat that plays fetch.  Which reminds me I need to find that jingle ball before I go to bed tonight.  If I don't I will be up all night with her bringing it to me or playing with it in the kitchen.

Auburn and Sam slept inside last night.  They were calling for a winter mix of snow and sleet. Of course being in the south most people panicked and ran for peanut butter, milk and bread.  I never worry.  I new it would be rain.  I was slightly surprised, we did get some ice but other than that there was no rain and the ice had melted before 5 this morning.  It was cold I can say that much.  It was freezing!  My husband works as a Sheriff and he is usually out in that kind of weather if we are going to have it.  He was home and our phone rang, it was them.  Before I even handed him the phone I told him he was not going.  He knew I ment business too.  He didn't even try to make an excuse.  I was just being cautious. It was already past midnight and the rain had already foze a sheet of ice on our back deck.

Now, over the weekend Izzy went to her mom's house.  When Izzy came home yesterday evening, she handed me a zip bag of pictures that her mom had made of her.  Now this is only because everytime I have some done I send them to her.  In that big bag of pictures she sent a picture of Izzy holding her sister.  Now I must say that you don't have to look at it being as she was being "witchy" but I think she was.  She does know that I want a baby of my own so bad I can't hardly breathe right, so she does push that child in my face everytime she can.  There are so many stories behind this it is unreal. 

Like when my husband and I were dating, while shewas with her lover, she told my husband that she was pregnant.  She tried to make me believe by these little hints that it was his.  I went to him for answers because I was already involved with him, but I sure as heck did not want to get any more attached to him while he had "another" child on the way.  He looked at me and said, "I don't know what she is telling you, but there is no way, if she is pregnant, that it's mine.  We didn't have sex five months before the divorce and you and I have been together for four months, I think she would have delivered way before now!"  Well, that set my mind to ease.  To May, the grass is always greener on the other side.  She can be with one man and see an ex and she want him just as bad.  Even though she had him before and didn't want him then.  I can't help it but I find the woman disgusting.  I don't let Izzy know that though.  My goodness!  As far as she is concerned her mom is okay by me. 

So the life in the day of a Super Step Mom!

 

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7:53:10 PM CST
Feeling Flirtatious

All these little pictures you see are my animals.  The cat is Dorito, the smiling puppy is Samson, and the Scottish Terrier is his mother, Auburn.  Sam's daddy was a half breed part Chow and the other we don't know, he died the other day from a run away driver.  He was missing one eye because someone had shot him in the head with a low cabilur gun, the bullet exited out of his eye.  Bless his heart, I think he might have been better off dead, but he sure was a happy dog.

The Harry Potter fan club link is not working.  I am trying to get in touch with the webmaster to see if he can give a link that will work.  Everything you see on these blogs as links are my fav things to do.  Yes, I am very Disney oriented among other things.  I love to draw so that bought in the love of animation.  Of course, I criticize Disney for not putting out any animated films and going almost totally computer animated.  Sorry, that to me isn't talent.  This is book learned.  I want to see glorious colors from painters and wonderfull drawings from people who know how to pick up a pencil and use it.

Tonight I am alone and I have finished washing laundry.  There is a storm going on outside and I am in complete heaven with the computer in my lap, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets beside me, and a bowl of popcorn and a cold glass of iced tea.  Heaven. 

My husband and I have decided that if we are not pregnant by spring we are going back to get help.  I have already been through some fertility treatment, and I'm scared of needles, but I handled it quickly.  I want a child of my own.  To love and hear call me Mommy instead of Carrie.  The doctors don't know why I haven't gotten pregnant yet.  They do know that I am not regular and "suspect" ovarian tumors but many sonograms later they do not show any tumors whatsoever in my ovaries.  I keep telling them to check my thyroid and they said they have, but I don't believe it.  I think they are drawing my blood but they are not running all the tests they need to on it.

I think I am going to plan a romantic night with my husband tonight.  I don't know if he will be in the mood tonight or not.  That gets me because when I plan for romantic evenings he either works late or comes in and goes right to bed without even glancing at me.  I've gotten to where I don't plan them to often and he has even asked me why I don't do it anymore. I told him the reasons I have listed above and he just laughed.  For once I wish he wold take me seriously. 

But, whether I do or whether I don't I know I will be able to sleep tonight!  Rain, rain, stay stay stay!

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7:43:26 PM CST
Feeling Happy

Today has been so great!  Relaxing and comfortable.  My eyes are actually drooping.  I am so sleepy.  I still haven't gotten Izzy to bed yet.  But it's not bed time yet so I am sitll hanging out to get her into bed and then I myself am going to bed.

Today was parent's vistation at Izzy's school.  We got rave reviews on Izzy's reading abilities.  I know that pride comes before a fall, but I couldn't help myself.  I puffed up.  I didn't say that we spend an hour every night learning new words or that she and I for fun for hours read books.  We have started the Harry Potter series for her.  She was a really good girl.  She even did a poetry reading today at the school.  Well, nursery rhyme reading.  She is only in Kindergarden.

This weekend is going to be quiet.  My husband has to work and Izzy will be at her mom's.  It's going to be so quiet....peaceful.  This will call for bubble baths, soothing music, a reread of a Harry book and work on a quilt.  God bless America.

Today May called and wanted to know what kind of birthday party Izzy wanted.  Last year it was Disney princesses, she is still in that but we are trying for soemthing different, and we are going to go for Bratz.  I have decorated Izzy's room in Disney princesses, and she also wanted me to know that she had bought a bunch of decorative items for her bedroom.  She wanted to know if I would mind putting them in her room.  I told May no I didn't mind, but did she really want to do that because she wouldn't ever get to see it.  She started laughing and stated that she would.  I laughed right back at her and told her that without me home she wouldn't see a thing.   It made her mad, but that is one of the main rules at this house.  No one of the opposite sex is allowed in the house if a spouse is not home.  We have good reason for this rule since something happened to me a long time ago.  It just makes us more comfortable.  Especially since he has a ex wife that has a devious side.

May also let us know that her husband (she hasn't divorced yet) is taking her to court over the baby.  Well, there's a problem, even though she claims the child is his, it looks just like Jason.  They are calling for a paternity test, and if it is shown that this child is Jason's, Lord, have mercy.  Not only will she have to pay back what money her husband has given her it is going to give me and my husband a perfect reason to finally take her to court to get custody of Izzy.

Life was good today.  I hope and pray it can be this way every day.

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5:57:23 PM CST
Feeling Quiet

Today started off pretty normal even for someone that has lost her job. 

I took Izzy to school, came home made dinner, and was getting Lee off to work.  He had went downstairs to the garage and I heard the door open and him back his car out. I was getting ready to go pick up Izzy from school and I heard this blood curtling scream and what sounded like my name.

I ran as fast as I could to the basement door when I heard it again.  I thought it was coming straight from the back yard, so here I go running like a mad woman back through the kitchen to the deck, start down the deck steps and I fell down 15 deck steps with my ribs hitting the cement blocks at the bottom.  So as you can figure I am sitting her in pain.  I'm all right I suppose, they are a little blue but not black. Now on my right foot, I think my big toe is broken.  It's pretty much twisted and black and blue, well, it was twisted until i twisted it back.  Yes, it hurt like crazy, but at least it is more straight than what it was.

The only thing that I can figured that happened (Lee had already left for work), was that when he went in the kitchen to put on his work boots he cut on the tv we have in the kitchen.  I must have heard the movie that was on or a commercial.  All I know is that I about killed myself trying to help my husband who I thought was dying.

Well, on to other things, I am patiently awaiting Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire movie to come out on PPV or DVD.  Yes, big  Harry Potter fan. Huge. Love the movies but the books are much better.  Much more detailed, in the movies the dialog gets all screwed up and one person that said it in the book is not saying it in the movie.  Now only if you are a true fan would you notice this.  My husband even bought an Xbox and two of the Harry Potter games.  Already beaten.  Anything that I am interested in it does not take me long to finish.

Izzy is in Kindergarten and she has entered a reading contest.  I don't mean to brag, but I have taught her to read.  I think it is very important for a child to read, not just read but read well.  She is enjoying it.  She will get so many free tickets to Six Flags over Georgia if she read 6 hours worth of books.  Well, tonight we started for an hour and we read Beginners Bible for Toddlers.  It took us exactly one hour to get through the Bible.  Tomorrow I believe we are starting on Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone. She will most likely change her mind before then.  Right now she is sitting her playing her V Smile.  It's hard to believe that a child that can be so endearing and loving can be such a handful.

Well, I guess I am through for the night.  As long as something doesn't happened between now and midnight!

 

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8:07:05 PM CST
Feeling Chillin'

I have just put my 5 year old to bed. Izzy is a handfull.  She really is.  Her dad has pampered her, so has her granddad and grandmother.  Her mom likes to have her out of her hair, but occassionally likes to have her around.

By putting Izzy to bed I have saved our cat Dorito from torture.  Izzy doesn't understand that a cat cannot hug you, and basically doesn't want you until it has made up it's mind that it does. 

Who else out there has children.  Is 8:30 to early to put a 5 year old to bed when she has school the next day?  On the weekends I let her stay up until 9:30 or 10, but not way past her bedtime, because it's a hassle to get her back on schedule.  Her dad thinks that this is too early, but this is the same man that when she was 2 was letting her stay up until 1 or 2 am. Crazy, huh?

I just need a little reassurance that this is okay.

Izzy's mom really hates that I have her on a schedule because it throws everything off that she wants to do when Izzy is with her. Like going to the drag races or to see NASCAR. It also bugs her that Izzy minds me.  Look guys, I am traditional.  I believe if you do something bad you get punished for it.  Not before you get a long lecture though. I don't believe that you punish without the child knowing what it is for.  Everytime Izzy gets a time out, there is a lecture before hand. If she gets anything worse, there is a lecture before hand.  And what I mean worse is lying and fighting.  Izzy has a bad habit of lying, especially when she thinks it is going to benefit her.  At 5 she has learned this and plays it to her advantage.  Oh, does she.  But she minds me.  She really does.  She has her moments like any 5 year old, but she does mind. 

Somebody please tell me that I am not totally wrong.  I can take constructive critisim.  Totally for it.  Can't say that I will agree with you, but hey, if you got something good, that's all right by me.

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7:22:58 PM CST
Feeling Anxious

Well, this is my first day home back from my job that fired me for to many incoming phone calls!  I had been with that company 5 years and no one ever called me. If they did it was on my cell.  It just so happened that I was going through my audit and I had left my cell phone at home and my husband happned to call with my boss sitting there.  She laughed it off.  Never letting on with anything.  But something was funny about the whole thing. The week before the big wig boss was there and they were interviewing for the office.  Only problem was there was no place for an extra person in that office. 

This is a really small office with hardly anyone working there, it just smells really fishy to me.  Anyway, my boss calls me into her office and already has papers drawn up for my termination, already has all of this so called evidence that I have been receiving all these incoming phone calls.  There is alot more to this story, because just that morning when I came in there were already calls logged from my computer. On top of that, there had been things in the company system with my intitals and it was stuff that I never touched.  Ha! And everyone kept telling me not to worry about it!  I wouldn't sign the papers that they wanted me to sign saying that I was complying to having too many incoming phone calls.

Well, of course I cried, but not until I got to my husbands place of employment.  What makes this worse is that they fired me after calling me back from a year long lay off.  We have just caught our mortgage up and all the bills and here I am without a job again.

Oh, but wait, no one knows about May, my husband's ex wife!!!!  She told my husband she is still in love with him!  My husband is completely honest with me and loves me, but sometime it is just better not to know things.  We are paying a woman nearly $500 a month for a child that doesn't live with her.  Hasn't lived with her since my husband and I have gotten married. She only wants her when it is convenient for her or there is something going on that she wants Izzy to be involved with.  I have been keeping a notebook and computer log of every day that Izzy is with us and every weekend that her mom gives up.  The only thing May has on her mind is Jason, her lover, her cousin.  Oh, yes, you read that right, cousin.  Izzy has a sister by her mom, and this sibling came from the man she was cheating on my husband (when she was married to him) with! 

She married him, started seeing Jason on the side, got pregnant, left her husband, lived with Jason, had the baby, left Jason, went back to her husband, let the baby get a month old, left her husband, moved back in with Jason and is now living with him and her Aunt. 

My life is a soap opera!  She has been steadily moving in on my husband, although he picks and chooses when she is and when she isn't. She keeps putting into my daughters head that she doesn't have to love me (um, no she doesn't, but it would be nice.), that if me and her dad break up then she can live with them again.  So, here I am in the middle of something that I would rather just believe is a bad dream.

Hey, this isn't the begining.  I have a father in law who has a drug problem and a mother in law that loves to fight with him. A sister in law that loves to start trouble between everyone but doesn't want to take responsibilty for anything.  Especially anything she has done.

Oh, God help me!

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