Stay Hot and in Love

Any gift I've ever given to anyone, regardless of the relationship, wasn't something that I would have wanted back simply because of a negative change in the relationship.  I'm not an Indian-giver, and, especially with respect to the women I have loved, I've never attached strings to anything I've given.

Someone posted:  "Its not love that holds a marriage together, its commitment. Its your character, not theirs."  The marriage that, in the long run, is held together by commitment and not love, by force of your character and not theirs, is a sad and pathetic marriage.  I'm not sure which is worse, a marriage that is driven primarily by commitment rather than love, or divorce when love isn't the driving force in the marriage.

When a man gives his wife gifts, its for his wife, like cou on a cou stick. He's building a trophy or a shrine of his affections. They (gifts)  are to build interest like an investment in this relationship, each piece glorifying the next piece (earrings , necklaces, bracelets etc.) To answer the question, do you keep them, it depends on who is dumping who. If He dumps you, iff (thats if and only if) you have been faithfull, then He is throwing away you with the whole lot. Thats his loss, you were faithfull, you earned them. HOWEVER, if you dump him, those tokens of his affection are for HIS wife, not you, who is calling it quits. Whoever accepts the job,  they are for her to adorn, his wife, this same said position, whom ever that may be. The unfaithfull one to the relationship should leave butt naked, as it were before it all started. If your gonna jump ship on someone, and take the goodies, your stealing. If this were law, I'll bet that almost half of divorce would vanish simply because of how shallow so many people actually are, that they'ed leave their spouce quicker than they leave their rocks. Its not love that holds a marriage together, its commitment. Its your character, not theirs.