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Being Single Isn't So Bad

Fri, 19 Oct 2007 17:32:03 GMT

I have been single for a little over two months. For the most part I am enjoying it very much. I'm sure the day will come when I feel the urge to cuddle again, but until then -- let's rejoice in all the wonderful things that come to you when you're single.

Here are some that apply to me:

- You can make your own plans.

- You can leave parties whenever you want to leave.

- You have time to catch up with friends and a great chance to make new ones.

- You can redefine yourself. Get a new hobby, buy a new wardrobe or learn a new language. You can be wacky without getting questioned.

- You can cook all the things he didn't like to eat, and eat them without feeling like you need to find food for him, too.

- You can begin thinking about the kind of guy you want to spend your time with in the future.

I could go on and on. Somebody ... add on to my list. Let's keep it going.

Tags: single

Attention: Men Want Hot Women

Thu, 06 Sep 2007 14:38:20 GMT

In case you weren't aware -- men want hot women.

This startling news comes from a study out of Indiana University, Bloomington, where 46 German speed-daters were asked to fill out a questionnaire about what they were looking for in a mate, listing such categories as wealth and status, family commitment, physical appearance, healthiness and attractiveness.

Guess which category won?

Tags: Hot women

Breaking Up on Myspace Is Hard to Do

Mon, 27 Aug 2007 17:37:43 GMT

Throughout my time blogging as the Common Sense Diva, I've been in a pretty serious relationship. For reasons I won't discuss on here, we recently broke up after three years. We lived together, traveled across the world together, and even performed in a local rock band together. I'm in his sister's wedding photos for crying out loud! The hardest part of getting through this breakup won't be who gets to keep the furniture and the houseplants ... instead the main issue will be, "what's going to happen to my Myspace?"

Breakups are hard. They're a fact of life. You live, you love and sometimes you lose at love. You've got to deal with the pain and move on. When you're fresh out of a relationship you're going through a lot of emotions. Isn't your real life stressful enough without having to figure out how to deal with your virtual love life, as well?

Like many couples on social networking sites, we were each other's "No. 1's," meaning that he sat in the top left hand corner of my friends list, and vice versa. Our profile pictures were full of the happy times we spent together. Our relationship status read: in a relationship. So when the day comes to do a major overhaul to your Myspace or social networking site ... how do you cope?

Here are a few pointers on how to deal with your profile after a break up.

Give It Time: When we were breaking up, one of his concerns was, "What will be do with our Myspace profiles?" I didn't even want to think about it at the time. "I don't care." Well, since I knew he cared, I waited until he changed his information. Yes, I could have logged in right after our breakup fight, rearranging titles and information, but I gave it some time. He changed his profile within a week, and I would have given it about two weeks. I wanted the information to set in before people started questioning me about it online. If you keep in touch with a lot of your friends via Myspace, this may be the first way the news is communicated to the group.

Rearrange Your Friends List: I listed about 20 friends on my page including him, his family, his closest friendsand our mutual friends. Sadly, I had to remove his family and the friends that I will most likely end up losing because of our breakup. I kept only my very closest friends and some of my older close friends that I hadn't displayed before.

New Life, New Photos: You're single now, and once you're feeling up to it, it's time to go out there and have some fun! Change out those romantic pics of you and your sweetie. Don't get stuck in the past. There's a whole world out there just waiting for you.

It's Official, You're Single Now: After seeing the label "in a relationship" for awhile, it's time to face the music and check a new option for relationship status. Single. Sure, it's a word you haven't used to describe yourself in awhile and it probably conjures up all kinds of images and feelings. Not particularly bad, just different.

Don't forget to check out all of your other social networking accounts and change your status on them, too. Might as well, right? I had to look everywhere for my Friendster password, but I did, and now I'm single on there, too. It was strangely satisfying, or should I say therapeutic to change it. (I changed my Friendster profile before he got to it. So there!) Once you've changed all of your profiles to fit your new single and fabulous title, you are done. Now that wasn't so bad, was it?

Finally, you're going to have to decide whether or not you're going to keep your ex as a friend on your Myspace page, remove them as a friend entirely or just try to coexist with them. Don't get caught up in spying on what they're doing and the comments they're making. You're wasting your time and you'll just drive yourself crazy. Hopefully, you can remain on each other's profile pages and begin a new peaceful existence, one pixel at a time.

Tags: Breakups, Social Networking, Myspace, Single

Like You Needed a Reason to Have Sex

Thu, 02 Aug 2007 18:31:35 GMT

Just in case you were looking for a specific reason to have sex -- this article will help you out. Behold 237 reasons to have sex.

Whether you were just doing someone a favor or trying to get a late-night workout -- now you can add your 238th reason to have sex to the list.

Or you can just read the article and laugh at how silly it is. Amusing -- but silly.

Tags: sex

Underwear Matters!

Mon, 09 Jul 2007 18:30:44 GMT

What's the most important thing you look for in a partner? Good looks? A great sense of humor? Goals for the future? Nope, wrong answer. What you're really looking for is a nice pair of underwear.

"Wanna Flirt, a UK-based dating site, surveyed hundreds of its members, and found that a person's undies were the most important factor when sizing up a new beau." Here's the link to the Styledash article.

I've narrowed down my take on decoding a guy's underwear -- because that's really the only insight I've got. Any guys want to venture into the world of girl's underwear, be my guest.

Boxers -- He's laid back, likes music, movies, and a good steak. He probably has a good relationship with his mom and loves dogs.

Commando -- Don't mistake this no underwear move to mean that he's a sexy risk taker who doesn't mind flyin' in the breeze. Going commando means he's too lazy to wash his underwear. Not a turn on.

Boxer Briefs -- This guy has his stuff together. He's on the fast track to success, good with his money and there's a lot going on upstairs. Beware of this kid's ego, because he's super confident and not afraid to flirt with other girls.

Tighty Whities -- Just as the underwear style suggests: he's uptight, boring and high strung. If you see tighty whities ... run.

Holes -- If you see holes in his underwear, you're probably paying for the dinner and the movie. Bring your flexible friend and your warmest handshake. See ya later!

Do you agree with me or what?

Tags: underwear, deeper meaning, predictions

Summer Loves

Wed, 27 Jun 2007 20:43:47 GMT

Hello friendly flirters,

I took a nice long vacation at the beach ... and now I'm back! Speaking of summer vacations, have you ever fallen in love while soaking up rays on the beach or skiing in the mountains? Were you able to take the romance back into the real world, or did your love die with the final glimpses of the summer sun over the ocean?

Tags: summer loves, vacations, romance, reality

I Have a Question for YOU!

Wed, 06 Jun 2007 21:25:18 GMT

So I've been asking you all of the questions up until this point. Now it's time to turn the tables. Riddle me this:

What are the top 10 best places to go on a first date?

Where's the craziest place you've had sex?

Is your man allowed to go to strip clubs?

Why did your relationship fall apart?

What are the top 10 places to meet a total hottie?

What accessory really catches his eye?

Opinions? Rant and Raves? Go for it.

Embarrassing Moments in Bed

Thu, 31 May 2007 20:52:25 GMT

Describe your most embarrasing moment in bed. Farting? Burping? Falling out of bed. Calling out the wrong person's name. A million things could go wrong. What has happened to you that was terribly embarrassing?

Making the First Move

Thu, 31 May 2007 18:05:49 GMT

Is it still a taboo for a girl to ask a guy out?

I think this is absolutely fine. What's the worst thing that can happen? He's says "no" ... not a big deal. Get out of the Victorian era and be the independent woman you've always wanted to be.

Does anyone NOT agree with me? Seriously, I'd be shocked.

Love at First Sight

Thu, 31 May 2007 17:38:43 GMT

Do you believe in the concept of 'love at first sight'? I like to think it's a real concept, but I know it's probably more of a 'lust at first sight' feeling.

HollyDear083 asks, "Just out of curiosity, How do you all feel about falling in love at first sight? Is it possible?"

What do you think?