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NOTES FROM THE HELPERS OF THE CIVIL WAR HISTORY CHATS
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ANNOUNCEMENT!!!!!   The 9 PM ET Tuesday night chat, with Roundtop and Jayne, in the Ancestral Digs chatroom has been moved to 10 PM ET on Wednesday night in the Genealogy room [aol://2719:3-241-Genealogy]  Please join us!!!!!   We're sorry for any inconvenience, but RT's work schedule has changed and Tues night was no longer an option for him.  (And I sure didn't want to lose my co-host)

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Thursday we re-ranPart 1 of the "CONFEDERATE CAMPAIGNS OF THE SOUTHWEST" by Ted Fisher.  Friday night we presented Part 2, if you missed it you will have the opportunity to see it this Thursday 11 PM ET.  Friday night, 10 PM ET we will present Part 3.  This is a great, informative series, you really don't want to miss it. 

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You can visit the Genealogy Schedule by going to [http://journals.aol.com/gchjenna/AOLGenealogyCommunityNews/] which includes our Civil War chats.  Watch there for announcements for special programs in the chats...  Enter your surnames, your brickwalls, Need help, GENTREK announcements, our Chat schedule,  Your hosts can even let you know if they can't be in their chat and who might be subbing for them.  Put this in your favorite places and visit if often. 

You can also check out other Civil War chats,   Mondays 9-10 PM ET and Thursdays 9-10 PM ET in the Mason Dixon Room (aol://2719:3-508-Mason%20Dixon%20Line) (on AOL only) they have some great Trivia quizes
  
Stop by the NEW Genealogy Community Website.  [http://www.genealogycommunity.com]  Please register and be sure to post your queries on the message boards.  More content is being added all the time. 

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"THE BOOK SHELF"
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TITLE:  THE EMANCIPATOR'S WIFE,A NOVEL OF MARY TOOD LINCOLN
AUTHOR:  BARBARA HAMBLY
PUBLISHER:  BANTAM BOOKS<HARDBACK>
ISBN:  0-553-803018

First off I will tell you all that I'm not a big fan of Historical Fiction.  With that said, I will go onward.

I do believe Ms Hambly meant well, but I think in this book, she does Mrs Lincoln a disservice.  She paints Mary Todd Lincoln as a manipulative woman from the time she was a little girl.  Well she may have been, but the author here,t akes more liberties than needed, in my humble opinion. 

There is one part of the book that I think would have been better left to our imagination, and that is the first time Mr Lincoln and Mary Todd had "relations". My first objection to this particular episode in the book, is that I can't, for the life of me, see those two having sex outside marriage and then Mary tricking Lincoln into marrying her.  Although I guess it would not stretch the facts too far since Robert was born 9 months less 4 days after they were married.

My biggest objection is that, there were some minor historical flaws in the book.  Hambly has Charles Sumner canned by another senator.  When in, case of fact, it was a member of the House, Preston Brooks who delivered the canning.  To non-historians who probably would not catch the eye, but to one who studies history it jumped out at me.

Over all I would have to give this book  ---- 1 star

AntietamCW 

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--------OUR WEEKLY READING--------
(items from our Letters, Songs,
and Poems evenings)
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This was received on the a past Civil-War-Women Maillist:
Martine's Handbook of Etiquette, and the Guide to True Politeness.  
New York:  Dick & Fitzgerald;
Publishers. 1864; 204pp.  
ISBN# 0-914046-07-1  

    Excerpted from:  Domestic ettiquette and duties.

    On the wife especially devolves the privilege and pleasure of rendering the home happy.  We shall, therefore, speak of such duties and observances as
pertain to her.

    When a young wife first settles in her home, many excellent persons, with more zeal, it may be, than discretion, immediately propose that she should devote some of her leisure time to charitable purposes:  such, for instance, as clothing societies for the poor, or schools, or district visiting.  We say with all earnestness to our young friend, engage in nothing of the kind, however laudable, without previously consulting your husband, and obtaining his concurrence.  Carefully avoid, also, being induced by any specious arguments to attend evening lectures, unless he accompanies you.  Remember that your Heavenly Father, who has given you a home to dwell in, requires from you a right performance of its duties.  Win your husband, by all gently appliances, to love religion; but do not, for the sake even of a privilege and blessing, him to spend his evenings alone.  Look often on your marriage ring, and remember the sacred vows taken by you when the ring was given; such thoughts will go far toward allayhing many  of these petty vexations which circumstances call forth.  

    Never let your husband have cause to complain that you are ore agreeable abroad than at hime; nor permit him to see in you an object of admiration, as respects your dress and manners, when in company, while you are negligent of
both in the domestic circle.  Many an unhappy marriage has been occasioned by neglect in those particulars.  Nothing can be more senseless than the conduct of a young woman, who seeks to be admired in general society for her politeness and engaging manners, or skill in music, when at the same time, she makes no effort to render her home attractive; and yet that home, whether a palace or a cottage, is the very center of her being - the nucleus around which her affections should revolve, and beyond which she has comparatively small concern.  

    Beware of intrusting any individual whatever with small annoyances, or misunderstandings, between your husband and yourself, if they should unhappily occur.  Confidants are dangerous persons, and mostly seek to obtain an ascendency in families by gaining the good opinion of young married women.  Be on your guard, and reject every overture that may lead to undesirable intimacy.  Should any one presume to offer you advice with regard to your husband, or seek to lessen him by insinuations, shun that person as you would a serpent.  Many a happy hime has been rendered desolate by exciting coolness or suspicion, or by endeavors to gain importance in an artful and insidious manner.  

    In all money matters, act openly and honorably.  Keep your accounts with the most scrupulous exactness, and let your husband see that you take an honest pride in rightly appropriating the money which he intrusts to you.  "My husband works hard for every dollar he earns", said a young married lady, the wife of a professional man, to a friend who found her busily employed in sewing buttons on her husband's coat, "and it seems to me worse than cruel to lay out a dime unnecessarily."  Be very careful, also, that you do not spend more than can be afforded in dress; and be satisfied with such carpets and curtains in your drawing-room as befit a moderate fortune, or professional income.  Natural ornaments, and flowers tastefully arranged, give an air of elegance to a room in which the furniture is far from costly; and books judiciously placed, uniformly produce a good effect.  A sensible woman will always seek to ornament her home, and to render it attractive, more especially as this is the taste of the present day.  The power of association is very great; light, and air, and elegance, are important in their effects.  No wife acts wisely who permits her
sitting-room to look dull in the eyes of whom she ought especially to please, and with whom she has to pass her days. 

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THE HELP DESK
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From CWfan2

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DID YOU KNOW?
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Weekly Web Sites we've received
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From Bitsobluengray
[http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~mruddy/clayton2.htm]
Civil War Links

[http://homepages.dsu.edu/jankej/civilwar/civilwar.htm]
Dakota State University - The American Civil War

[http://www.sunsite.utk.edu/civil-war/]
The American Civil War Homepage

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From Rcbrooks1
[http://www.wstm.com/Global/story.asp?S=3851451]
Town officials who sold Civil War cannon get shelled at the ballot box

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From DaePowell
[http://www.19thalabama.org/battles/chickamauga/index.html]
Battle of Chickamauga:  An Alabama Infantry Regiment's Perspective

[http://www.civilwarmini.com/]
Civil War in Miniature

[http://rs6.loc.gov/cwphome.html]
Civil War Photographys at Library of Congress

[http://lcweb.loc.gov/exhibits/gadd/]
The Gettysburg Address at Library of Congress

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FROM OUR READERS
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The 100th Anniversary of the Dedication of the Pennsylvania Monument at Andersonville, GA will be held on 7 December 2005. Gettysburg Camp # 112, Sons of Union Veterans of the Civil War is planning to commemorate this historical event. The day has been reserved through the National Park Service. “Gettysburg Blues” There is to be a “March of Honor,” from Providence Spring to the Pennsylvania Monument. Line up organization at Providence Spring for the procession will begin at 12:00 noon.  Check out the above website for more details

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