Synergistic Coaching

It's important that we can look each other in the eye and feel good about our relationships.  Recently the theme in my coaching has been about relationships.  We often get caught up in the drama of situations and lose sight of the importance of having an authentic, trusting relationship in the end.

All relationships are important and must be handled as a treasure, whether its a significant other, friend or a peer and superior in the workplace. 

I have found there are 5 important keys to keeping the trust level high.

1)  Simply keep to the truth and avoid exaggerations.

2)  Don't fall victim to gossiping or chatting about others around you.  Others will see that that violation may occur with them as well.  Character assassination is one of the most dangerous traps to find yourself in.  It in turn reflects badly on yourself as well as the one you are attacking.

3)  Look for body language and unspoken signals that the interaction with another may be fragile.  Being sensitive to others will help to encourage them to stay true to you in their feelings.   Gently encourage them to be open with you.  If they are saying what they're feeling...not just verbalizing their thoughts, you will get the complete truth.

4)  Say what you mean and mean what you say.  Think before making a statement or commitment and then stick to it.  Everyone is watching for your integrity.

5)  Lastly, be generous with compliments and credit.  Let others know that you recognize their competence, abilities, characteristics and contributions.  At all cost, don't take credit for their work.  This is also very true in personal relationships.

Trust is earned, not an automatic.  Be authentic and true to yourself and you will likewise be that to others.

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