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The Real Tribute To A Mother
I was taking clothes out of the washer and I found a HUGE paper clip. Eler Beth saw it in my hand.
"Oh, that's mine. I must have left it in my pocket. Heather gave it to me."
Heather is Eler Beth's eight-year-old cousin.
"I don't know why she wanted to give it to me. I almost said no, and then I thought about how I'd feel if I wanted to give something to someone and they told me they didn't want it, so I took it and thanked her," she said.
And that made me remember picking Andrew up from Kindergarten one day (13 years ago!!). He told me about a game they played inside during recess because it was raining. He described the rules, and I remember asking him who he "chose" during the game, thinking it would be Eric, his best friend at the time, and I was surprised when he said it was Shane. Shane was a sweet, troubled little boy, who had many learning problems. I asked why he chose Shane, and he said, "Because nobody ever picks Shane."
I look at my kids and I see two very individual, competent, and intelligent people, and I'm so glad that I have them. They can vex me and worry me, and believe me they do! I may not write about those times, but they're normal, imperfect kids, so we have plenty of vexation and worry along with the good stuff. I think about things I've said and done to them that I regret, but they don't seem to be too damaged by my imperfection, so I guess I can forgive myself for those lapses. I believe I have my own mother to thank for any good parenting traits I may have. So I not only thank God and my husband for my kids, but I thank her as well.
When they say and do things like the two instances I cited above, I feel like I've been honored for being their mother, and in turn this honors my own mother. I can't imagine any better "gift" than this.
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Those are touching sentiments of thoughtfulness from your kids, and if they would say and do things like this spontaneously that would indicate to m e these traits are now part of them and they will continue to make you proud. Gerry
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You should be proud of your kids as they seem to be growing into wonderful people. Sadly, I see so many nasty kids around...it is refreshing to hear the stories you tell about yours. You've done a good job, be proud of it.
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Lisa -
Those children are remarkable for their caring and insight. I know many adults who do not have empathy for anyone and are all about themselves. You must be an incredible roll model for them. And your mother sounds like she was one for you. I hope you had a very wonderful Mother's Day.
Nelishia
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What a nice tribute. To your children, too.
Smiles, Leigh
http://journals.aol.com/mleighin21st/iwasthinking.../
5/14/08 7:31 PM