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careers vs. family
Thanks for anwering my question. Are your girls interested in careers or more interested in being a home mom like yourself? Sorry for all the questions, but I am studying family dynamics and adolescent behavior right now and just like different peoples points of views.
Comment from sugar1337 - 9/21/04 11:47 AM
My two oldest daughters are very aware that I went to college and earned two degrees...graduating with honors and earning the Outstanding Senior in one of my majors. They know I am bright and capable (:::coughing modestly:::) and that our family makes considerable financial sacrifices to keep me a full time mother. I have the comfort of knowing that if something happened to my husband that I could support our family. If I continued my education where I left off, I would be making over 100 thousand dollars a year within three years....and if I went back to work at the level I left, I would make about $40,000.
That is a comfort.
It is also not the least bit of an incentive to leave my home. I love being home with my children and feel the time I have invested in raising them will benefit not only my family but the whole world. I smiled to myself today when I went past the Baptist Church. The sign said, "Want to make God laugh? Tell him your plan." My plan is to have a happy life and a happy family. Money over a certain level of subsistance really does not make your life all that much better.
But your question was about my daughters. At this point in time, both plan on having careers. Mandy has been interested in being a police officer for as long as I can remember. She is leaning more towards search and rescue, now, but that tends to be volunteer. She also wants to be involved with wildlife rescue and have a greyhound rescue kennel...also volunteer. She needs land for that, and has already saved up a thousand dollars towards buying a piece of property. I am starting to sell stuff (mostly books) on e-Bay to help her reach her goal of a ten thousand dollar down payment within the next four years. Since she is only sixteen, and she cannot become a police officer until she is twenty one, we plan on her taking some law enforcement classes at the local college, as well as continuing her martial arts and focusing on her foreign language skills.
She wants to be with her children, and she also plans to raise her family close to here. (She says she wants to move across the street, rofl). I assume I can help her with my grandchildren, especially since Shelby is only two. I will be homeschooling at least another twenty years. Somehow I do not imagine her waiting very long to start a family. Every boy she has dated but one has wanted to marry her.
Tabitha has always wanted to be a physician. For many years she wanted to be a dermatologist, now she is more interested in plastic surgery.She is only ten. A lot can change by then.
Both girls plan on attatchment parenting, as I did parented them. I don't think they can imagine NOT breast feeding or NOT having babies and children sleep in their bed.
Mandy and Tabby both say they would like to blend adopted children with biological children, the way our family has.
Career vs. full time mom is not an either/or situation. Many years ago I read an excellent book called Sequencing. I knew that I could get an advanced education, stay home to raise children, and then re-enter the work force if I needed to. I think that I disappointed two of my professors in particular who expected great things of me. Everyone who knew me in college is surprised to learn I am a full time mother. I tend to throw myself into things with gusto.The greatest value of a life to me is how happy I am, and how happy I can make other people.
Is this enough informtion?
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I love being a stay at home mom - am not looking forward to going back to work - lol
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Ah, sugar, the best laid plans. :-) I was not going to have children until my mid thirties, after I finished my residency in OBGYN. David was going to stay home with the children. ROFL
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Thanks for your opinion....I am probably going to go more the unconventional route when I have kids and try to convince my husband to stay at home more than me....just not my thing...don't think I could be a stay at home mother. I think I would deny my family too much by making me miserable at home...I am going to love my work...eh...I don't having kids till late in life anyways...so what am I worrying about now...lol
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Both my girls plan on not working any longer once they have children of thier own and both plan on homeschooling. Tracy sees that she would rather have total control. Though the private christian school is somewhat better than public there is still lots of peer pressure and other influences. Lori
She can feel free to look at our situation also Kas if she needs more feel free to share us also.
9/20/08 11:04 PM