Whispers...

I was talking to a friend this morning about all he's going through. The hurt he has is so pronounced it can fill a room. From what I gather from our conversations, he feels unloved. I admit, I know how he feels, I've felt it before. So, I told him to remember that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want doesn't mean they don't love you with all the are.  I know, those are someone else's words and if I knew who wrote them I'd gladly give credit. I don't know if I agree with the statement. I guess I feel that if you love someone you always love them with all you are and that's all you can expect from anyone else. Seems to me that if you're not willing to love someone completely then you don't really love them. You may like someone very much but it's in knowing that you'd do anything for them, that you'd be there no matter what, that's love. So here I am thinking about the conversation still, about the people I love, the people who have said they love me. I wonder, how is it someone can love you then walk away. Can we ever really be okay with losing someone that matters so much to us? Why is it okay to leave someone and then still say you love them? He's walking away from a marriage that is hurtful, not because he doesn't care but because he can't take anymore. Yet, he says he still loves her. How can you love someone and leave them, ever? I sit here listening to songs we've got on the computer because I can't get the freakin ipod to work and the chorus to one song is sticking with me, even when the others play:

And I bless the day I met you
And I thank God that He let you
Lay beside me for a moment that lives on
And the good news is I'm better
For the time we spent together
And the bad news is you're gone

Yes, it's great when a relationship makes us into better people. But I wonder if this is one of those rebound things. We hurt, we ache for acceptance and love so we let people into our lives that we know are only going to be temporary. In the end we feel better yet we miss the one we had. If it was so great, why did it end? Though I notice the song doesn't mention love. I guess it's just about having someone there. Maybe that's all some things ever are, just someone to be there for the moment. It's a great memory but it's not love. Would hurt like hell to find out that's all parts of our lives are. To know that these people didn't love us, just needed us and we were there. Does it get easier if that's ever the case?

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