Surrounded By Nincompoops

12:31:32 PM EDT
The reason my wedding ring is being taken away is because they can. I'am losing everything, my house is next. There is no limit to how many years they will go back.  Somethings that I didn't know and maybe somebody else can learn from is. When you are married both parties have to be on the Title to a house. Ty said that he  wanted me only to build my credt,and before the meeting to signthe papers he called the woman from the mortgage company and told her we were divorced. And that he was there because I couldn't understand the paperwork. He filled it all out and I signed. He pulled this same stunt with the Insuance companies for the cars, he called the woman and told her that we were divorced. Then he got away with not being on the policy. He did my taxes the same way, said that we were divorced. I have several years to go back and try to fix. I don't have a job yet. Ty had asked me in August to quit my Managers  position with a local bakery to work for mim. He left in December. Up until March I still thought he was coming home, because of his phone call,letters and e-mail. I cannot go back there to that job because they were his clients too.    

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12:32:44 AM EDT
Hearing Tv in the background

The thing that I'm wondering is. Is there any one thing that means your still married. Some people that are living together will say that there not getting married because it's just a piece of paper. Is it the paper that I  do have, mean that I"m married? After Ty left I found out that he had been telling people for years that we were divorced. I also have found out about 3 affairs. One was the secretary, who felt that she needed to come over and confess to me after he left. I helped this girl furnish her apartment. She got a bed from my son. She had forgotten to mention to me at that time that Ty was paying for her place and she was sleeping with my husband in that bed. She wanted to hug me after her confession. I sent her on her way, before I said what I should have. My boys were watching, I was setting an example. Girl #2 told me that he bought her so many gifts she felt obligated to sleep with him. Thats special, well she has her many gifts to keep her warm now. Thats because he is with woman #3 the book keeper. The only thing I know about her is what he said. Probably nothing true. But she has the real prize my husband. Now she can wash his pee pee undies. Am I still married? I ask it today because the authorities took my wedding ring from me. He has been gone 9 1/2 months, does all of this mean that I should take the offers to start dating. I think not. I'm not saying I want his tainted ass back. But when I stood before God  and said I do,it meant something to me. I'm not wondering anymore I have my answer.   

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3:26:47 PM EDT
First off I would like to remind you that this is my side of the story. The reason that I'm telling my side is so that maybe someone can learn from my situation before they loose everything like me. Yes I'am married to Ty.This I wasn't sure of because  he had told so many people that we were divorced. I even heard that I had received a substantial settlement, thats the same words that Ty had used to tell me about his first wife. This comment is untrue in both cases. The authorities do know where he is at. I meant that I hope that he doesn't get away with his destruction and pain that he has caused over 300 people. He has signed my name to so many things that if I don't end up in prison when this is finished the boys and I will have to move out of the area.They are checking into the house now to see if we get to keep it. His clients are mad of course and blame us because we are still here. Ty is very smooth with words and his first clients was a 63 year old woman and myself. Both of us only knew his work history from the lies that flowed so freely from his mouth. He said that his first trades was in High School were he had taken a class about trading, then when he was in the Army he traded foreign currency. That is what he was supposedly doing for the Army now. Trading for the Army was a lie. He read lots of books. Or atleast they were laying around. I don't know if he ever finished any of them. In September they will be setting the date for the trial. Ty and his new flavor of the Month said that they have had death threats and are trying to get out of showing up. I say if you did nothing wrong than why are you afraid. I will be there and I will hold my head high.

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8:52:29 PM EDT
Hearing My Own Heart Beat
When Ty came back to Michigan he lived with his Mother, he did odd jobs but nothing for more than a couple of months. He moved into my place after a year and kept up the same habits. Always saying he wasn't sure what he wanted to do. I gave him space to figure it out, I thought what good would it do to nag?It was at this time he was still telling me about him being in the Army. When he inlisted in 1980 he had scored higher than anybody since Vietnam. He had said that he was shot,stabbed  and had surgery on his lungs. All because of the Army. He has scars but I found out it's from a motorcycle accident. When in Germany on guard duty he shot a man going over the fence who was stealing nuclear weapons. All of this and a couple of other stories and then he became the youngest Special Forces officer in the Army.  During our years together he took off on supposed missions. I wonder where he really went. No I don't really want to know.Why would I question it? He looked me right in the face when he lied, just ask his clients they got  newsletters evey month. He is very good with words. All of which were lies he never went on a business trip. He just was spending there money. If this isn't true than why did he tell me in February " There is no place tht I haven't been and nothing that I haven't done since I left". My phones have been bugged since November you can listen for yourself. My prayer tonight is I hope they catch him.

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6:25:35 AM EDT
There are many sides to a situation  not just two. It just depends on how many are involved. In this case over 300, atleast we won't just be hearing Ty's side.I have been questioned on how I didn't know that my husband was in the Army. First I have never known anybody that was in. So the workings of this Institution is a mystery to me. Especially the Special Forces.So I was ripe to the stories I was told for many years. Anything he said was gospel. I met him at the place that I had worked at for many years, his job was the trash and washing dishes. He needed to get his head straight after his lastest mission.  He was coming back from Desert Storm and had hand picked some men to serve under him. Many had died ,and he had to write to there parents to tell them because  he was there lieutanant, and that was his job. Throughout the  years that I have known him he went on special missions. There was even some surgeries on himself thrown in there for sympathy. There was always wonderful stories about his past. In the last year he had talked about a special mission under the code name (illuminate.) How was I supposed to know it was all a lie. When I contacted the Army  in March of 2005 they said he was discharged when he was in his 20's with a less than honorable  discharge. The picture of him on Veterans  Day was a lie, he bought that uniform. He lied to all of you just like he lied to me. Back to the life and times.We worked together for maybe 6 months, he then left the State for awhile. We were not in contact, then out of the blue about a year later I got a call. He was in town because of a death in the family. Yes, this is true, only because I know his family. When he came back then our life began, so I have  known him for 15 years and been married to him for 9. Just friends the rest of the time in between. This jumps around alot but be  patient and don't judge. Just step back for a minute and listen. More to come, if you care to know. 

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6:40:43 PM EDT
Well today is my anniversary. I have been married to Ty for 9 years today. We went to Las Vegas, it was beautiful. Of course I paid for everything because Ty never worked. He could never decide what it was he wanted to do. At times I held 2 jobs, was  donating my blood plasma and was supporting 6 people  on $8.00 an hour. Ty had always promised to take care of me and was going to make it up to me because he didn't work.  We very seldom argued he told me I was the woman of his dreams. What changed that, I do not know I cannot put a single day or time to when he started having affairs or stealing his clients money. When he was asked in his deposition if he was having an affair with the secretary he said "no she is an idiot, no one would touch her." I wonder if she would give up his secrets now. I'm sure that his 300 clients and myself would like to know what he did with our money. He is still spending it in Carbondale Illinois, because I'm getting mail saying that he is a preferred customer at the local jewelery store. He has lost nothing because he lied about taking anything with him when he left. But his clients are filing for bankruptcy and are losing there homes. All that Ty did was move to another State. A comment on my last entry said that he had courage. I say he is a thief, a lier and a coward.  That is were I got T.L.C. If leaving a marriage after you are done using someone makes him courageous than this world sucks worse than I thought. Our society has become very comfortable with divorce, don't just move to another State and pretend that you have done nothing wrong. Other than his 5 children, and my 3 he is now ruining 4 more. I pray everday that he will not get away with it. So I make a toast to my marriage. My husband was my world, I will never be the same . Nor will alot of people that he stold there life savings from, just for his own personal gain. Life shouldn't  shouldn't hurt so much.

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5:59:12 AM EDT
I had planned on spending the rest of my life with my husband, whom I love. As far as the State of Michigan is concerned we are still married. When he left in December he was going to make a business stop in Chicago and then report to the Army. He kept in contact with me after his arrival. I have copies of every letter and e-mail. The authorities have copies of the phone calls. The reason they were listening is because a client had turned  my husband in way back in November, because he couldn't ever get in touch with him. I didn't know anything was wrong until February when the bank account was frozen. Well here's the deal he never actually made it to his destination. He went to the book keepers house in Illinois and that is where he has been all along. It was all a lie he was never heading to the Army. His clients and I were left here to sort out the mess.I don't know anything about his business. But my name is on everything. He just walked away and acted like we don't exist. He is telling everyone in Carbondale Illinois how successful and smart he is. We will see there is always a paper trail. I just hope somebody stops him! This is far from being  over. You just can't treat people like that and get away with it.    

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11:30:29 AM EDT
Feeling Sad
Some people ride on the glory of others and claim to be the real thing. Here's a story for you. Fifteen years ago a man said that he was in the Special Forces, had more medals than his uniform could hold and was coming back from war at that time. He was quite the officer and a gentleman. His stories of war were fantabulous. I worshipped the ground he walked on. During those years he never held a job for more than a couple of months. I supported him. That man, my husband the author of this journal will no longer be writing. He left in December, saying that he was seconded in the Army. None of his stories are true. After not hearing from him I checked with the Army. He hadn't been in since being a teenager. They had released him with a less than Honorable discharge. He actually had moved to Carbondale Illinois with the book keeper and her 4 kids. He had met her here in J-Land. His clients,the children and I are just now finding out about all the lies and affairs. I can't say to much because of the many lawsuits. He was the only one that I knew in the Army and that isn't even true. So my Memorial day Thank You goes to the men and women that serve our country .My husband isn't a hero but I'm sure he is telling somebody today that he is. God bless the Real Hero's.

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11:19:33 PM EST
  I'm not a parent, but I play one at parent-teacher conferences. My little buddy Corey needed someone to talk to his "Agricultural Sciences" teacher. I'm good at smoozing both teachers and sheep. It's a skill I have. I can take the worst student, failing miserably, and make the teacher like the child or at least feel really sorry for failing him. When I told the teacher who I was and why I was there, he just looked at me and shook his head. I said, "He's done quite well for someone in his condition don't you think?" What condition? "Recent studies have found a link between severe, tramatic illness and ADHD." Corey had a serious illness? Pnuemonia? "No, not pnuemonia. He suffered through a nasty bout of syphilus and gonorrhea." This brought a look of surprise. A fourteen year old with syphilus? "You're the agriculture sciences teacher and you question how he caught syphilus? First, it's Michigan. Secondly, you've got a barn full of cute animals and unsupervised ninth graders. What did you think was going to happen?" This morning, the teacher told Corey about his meeting with me. When he mentioned the horrible diseases I spoke of, he laughed so hard he nearly peed his pants. Then he laughed at the lengths I would go to, in order to save a kid from failing. But he laughed.  Corey will pass.

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9:08:27 PM EST
  Being the wonderful, in touch with my feminine side, sensitive, 90's kind of guy, I noticed that my constant teasing was annoying my secretary Renee. Well, I didn't really notice it, she told me. Her frequently upraised middle finger helped drive the point home. Some days both middle fingers. Teasing Renee is like killing fish sticks in your driveway with an axe. It's that easy and that fun. It got to her. I could see it in the way she looked at me. Not the, "Hey Boss, I lit your Jaguar on fire in the parking lot," kind of look I normally get. It was more like a, "Those chocolate chip cookies have Ex-Lax in them," look. So, I promised never to tease her again as long as she remains working for me. She brightened up just a tad as she considered that promise. I have never been so miserable and never made such a dumb promise. It was like super gluing your sphincter shut to hold in a hot air balloon worth of rancid beer and burrito farts. I found myself biting my tongue each time she spoke and said something like, "Why don't you write something nice about me for a change?" Tomorrow is her day off. I'm ungluing the sphincter and letting a few choice insults loose on the first person who enters the building to make up for today's complete drought of teasing.

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