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Wednesday, April 9, 2008
7:04:00 AM CDT

Married Soldiers that are living together in Iraq

This morning I was doing a quick scan of my email when I stumbled across an article that I had heard rumors of but until I read it for myself I didn’t realize just how offended I felt over it. Has anyone heard about the married Soldiers that are living together in Iraq? (http://www.military.com/spouse/fs/0,,fs_married-soldiers,00.html?ESRC=family.nl as of 4/9/2008) The fact they want to live together over there doesn’t hit me like the ideal that the Military wants to “preserve the marriage”. What about my marriage? What makes my marriage any less worthy then anyone else’s? If I decide to join today then in the contract I would sign there is a small clause that tells me if I am married or marry another Military member I understand the Military makes no promises to me that I will even end up at the same base as my husband. Wish I had the hubs contract in my hand right now so I could be exact with the wording. And if by chance I joined and got deployed straight to Iraq and by chance I got to live in the same camp as my hub (which would never happen because he isn’t actually getting the chance to live at a camp) and by chance we were approved for a trailer to live in together, how could I ever face the married people I work with each day knowing that their marriage wasn’t given the opportunity to be as “preserved” as mine. I saw good and bad in that article. When coming to a final decision on it, I would have to say I am completely offended and shocked over the ideal that I am not given the same opportunity to “preserve” my marriage. What about all the married couples that have been doing back to back 18 month deployments? Is the strain on their marriage any less to the Military? What in the world gives them the ideal that this boosts morale for the majority? Is this a ploy to encourage married couples to join together in the hopes they will deploy together? I am just confused on who actually sat down and while thinking thought this would be a great ideal. I just love how this policy was barely a noticeable change. Well I am taking notice and I just don’t think this was a very intelligent decision. Then on the other hand maybe that will cut down somewhat on the ever increasing rate of divorce in the Military although doesn’t do a single thing for the majority. If the best interest as a whole was considered why not cut back on the deployment times? Why not shorten the 12 and 15 month deployments to 6 or 8 months? Wouldn’t that serve ALL marriages involved more than just a select few? 

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  • #5 Comment from queenb8261 
    4/12/08 1:23 AM | Permalink
    My son was married to a girl in the Army and they got the same orders to the same camp. Jen turned up pregnant and I am not sure about it, but I believe they don't deploy pregnant women. Chad thought he could get his orders changed and did not. So he spent a year in Korea and got leave to come home when Ashley was born. There are no guarantees in life. Period. Except death & taxes.
    Love ya BFF
    Barb
  • #4 Comment from a2estes 
    4/9/08 12:18 PM | Permalink
    So would you go? I dont know if I would want wife(which i dont have one but if i did)going out near the warzone. But yet it would be nice if they could fly the wives free to safe zone...like italy or Baharain. And have your husband meet you there for a few weeks.
    Andrew D.E.
  • #3 Comment from kamdghwmw 
    4/9/08 9:18 AM | Permalink
    I think that is just wrong! Both of my late in laws were in the marine Corps and they could not get stationed together. My mother in law got pregnant just to get out of the service so that she could be with my father in law. Back in those days you were not allowed to be a mother on active duty!
    Kelli
    http://journals.aol.com/kamdghwmw/noonmom
  • #2 Comment from mssingmysoldier 
    4/9/08 8:41 AM | Permalink
    I don't take it personally. I mean, they are still fighting a war, they aren't guarenteed to get sent to the same place or to live together, it is just an effort to make things better for them. Why not?

    The fifteen month deployments got shortened to 12 as of the summer. Things are changing.

    I wouldn't get so upset over it, but I understand your feelings.
  • #1 Comment from mumma4evr 
    4/9/08 8:08 AM | Permalink
    my Navy friends are now saying that they want berthing on ships and get their wives stationed with them....
    I can't see how having spouses together in Iraq is a good thing...they know the dangers that are present and I would think it would take them minds off what they are supposed to be doing....

    Becky