THE TERRIBLE TRUTH ABOUT CPS AND DCS

I was filling out a site where it asked for my web page and when I entered it and came to my page, I was amazed that I had not made an entry since July!!!  So much has gone on and some things I choose not to put in my journol, due to fragile subject matter.

One thing is certain, though, my grandchildren still need me.  I have guardianship of the oldest boy due to so much conflict with his Mom and step-dad, but, praise the Lord, my daughter is divorcing the dirt bag!  This has helped my grandson so much he "wants to go home to "Mommy!"  This is wonderful.  He still has so many issues, but is in counseling and so is my daughter.  For some reason he doesn't like school.  My daughter is seriously thinking about home-schooling him and she will be good at it, I just hope the other 2 will not let this influence them, they are on the honor roll and love school!

CPS made a visit this week and I am almost certain the school made a referral due to the days the oldest grandson has missed, so many days due to illnesses and just not wanting to go.  We have even taken him to school and he gets out of the car and starts walking home.  I know this interprets to his being stubborn and a total lack of respect for authority, and you're right, but he is also depressed, anti-social, withdrawn, and we are at a loss as to how to best help him.  He says some of the kids "bully" him by kicking him, etc., I am concerned they discovered his problem with incontinence of his bowels.  He had an EGD with biopsies and a Colonoscopy, but no news from any findings.  We had an evaluation on the 12th by a psychologist the school got and we haven't heard what his report is yet.  I just hope it gives an accurate view about how he really is and not put him in a "box".  He is complex and difficult at times, but has so much potential.  He likes skateboarding, music, art, science, but sometimes has low self-esteem, and he truly is trying to use coping skills when things don't go his way or whenever there is a conflict.  I feel sorry for him being so young and seemingly having so many "burdens".  He almost never seems to have fun or to enjoy things to the point of laughing unless I try to get him to by my acting silly and goofy, then we have a good time!  I try to let go of the past but it's so hard to do, knowing all that has happened that contributes to his complex personality!  His Mom doesn't have a problem with forgetting, sometimes I think she doesn't have a clue about all she has done to contribute to his behavior.  Espcially where men are concerned (she already has a "boyfriend" living with them and she isn't divorced yet and her ex has only been gone about 6 weeks!!!!  I don't get it.  I don't even try any more.  I keep trying to get him to come back and stay with me for a while, but I understand it's "boring" here, we don't have as much drama going on like there is at Mom's and I read where people who are Bi-Polar can't stand "order", so they are good together in that respect!  God, could you take it from here?

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