Unhappily Ever After

Losing a baby has got to be the most painful thing that any woman can go through. It's a pain that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. No matter how much you try to get on with your life, it's always there. There is always something that reminds you of that part of yourself that is no longer with you. It doesn't matter how much time goes by, and it doesn't matter how many other children you have. A life is a life, and once it's gone, there is nothing that can take it's place. You can't substitute one life for another, yet so many times ignorant people say the most hurtful things while trying to offer comfort. The worse thing that anyone can say to a woman that has just lost a baby is, "Oh, don't worry dear, you can try to get pregnant again in a few weeks," or they'll say something like, "Be grateful that you have more kids at home." To say something like that, you might as well not say anything at all because comments like those are just salt in the wound or another stab in the heart that is already bleeding. If your mother died, would it hurt any less if your dad was still alive, or vice versa? If your spouse died, would it hurt any less if someone told you, "Oh don't worry about it, you can find another husband or wife in a couple of weeks." Only someone that has lost a child can truly understand the pain and the emptiness that is left behind once that child has been lost or taken from you.



For so many years we've had to suffer in silence while the rest of the world carried on as usual, however that has now changed. On September 28, 2006,Congress passed H. CON. RES. 222, officially making October 15th the Pregnancy and Infant Loss Rememberance Day. It was a very emotional day because it's something we've been waiting for and praying for, for so long. I myself have suffered the death of an infant as well as a miscarriage, so it is comforting for me to know that we no longer have to suffer in silence, and that our pain will be acknowledged instead of dismissed as if it was a skinned knee. October 15th will now be our day to remember our little angels.




Here are some links for those that are interested:

Transcription of PASSED October 15th Resolution
The House of Representative Video of Congress
Sept/Oct Newsletter from Oct 15 site
Press Release, News Articles, H. CON. RES. 222




~*~ Please note, in order to watch the video of Congress, you must have Windows Media Player. The link above will take you to the official October 15th site, and there you'll see the box to click on to watch the video.~*~




 


Tags: H. CON. RES. 222 , October 15, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Rememberance Day, Pregnancy and Infant Loss, Wave Of Light

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