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The Front Row...
I attended a staff lecture hosted by our Life Management department during one of my lunches last week. They have them every Wednesday, a different topic each time. I don't always go, even though I have it on my calendar...somehow work gets in the way! Never fails, that the message for that day, is exactly what I need to hear, whether it is for validation or something I'm going through at the time. The following is an excerpt from one of the handouts:
Life is a theatre...invite your audience carefully...not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a DISTANCE. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage, which ones discourage? Which ones are a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people, do they make you feel better or worse? The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
You cannot change the people around, you, but you CAN change the people you choose to be around!
We did an exercise, where the facilitator described a drawing to us, and using her words, we drew what we we heard. She could not use her hands, we could not ask questions. What she said, what we heard, even though we all heard the same thing, each of our drawings was different, and was different from the "answer" drawing. The next exercise, we were able to ask questions, and she was able to use her hands. All of our drawings were the same. Isn't that how communication goes? Someone tells us something, and we hear, but it isn't usually the same. Mirroring, is the process of accurately reflecting back the content of a message from your partner...paraphrasing. A statement in your own words of how you understand what your partner just said. How many times, though, do we not ask, we just assume we understand? This is where communication breaks down, hurt and resentment sets in, and the relationship goes no where.
Knowing when to say when, with alcohol (remember that slogan?), with food, relationships, etc. Not always easy to do, but for one's own sanity, necessary.
I was feeling kind of sad yesterday morning, actually full of self pity, and that is so unlike me. It had to do with my job, and though I like what I do, the company I work for, the people, it is different from any other place I've worked. I've been there a little over a year, and I still struggle at times to embrace it. Its not like me to feel this way, so outwardly. I'm usually so "go with the flow". It was hard to shake, I even felt teary (ok, THAT is so like me!). I do believe this job, though, is where I'm supposed to be, and it is deserving of a front row seat in my theatre of life.
Talk soon...
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Maybe your sugar level was off a little bit?
Your job does sound quite interesting and full of good stuff, in between the work parts :-)
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Hi Myra,
I think your job sounds very interesting, with lots of opportunities for self-enrichment.
Best,
Marty -
very interesting:) have a good week
Deb -
An interesting and excellent entry. My only concern is that remembering the days at the movie theater, if you sat too close, you couldn't see the complete picture and too far away, it didn't help either.
Jimmy
5/11/08 7:05 AM