One Summer's Day

The last time I spoke to my brother was when I called him to tell him that mom had died.  I asked him to call his 2 daughters that no longer live at home and tell them.  He said ok.

I got a call from my niece N last week asking about mom.  I started crying and ask didn't her dad call her?  No, he hadn't.  I felt so bad.  I told her about mom and she said "I don't know what to say" I said that I was so sorry and I should have called her myself.

My dad spoke briefly to my brother on the day we buried mom.  He said he wasn't coming to the funeral. 

I called my brother a week ago Friday.  I got his voice mail so I left a message asking him to call me or dad.

So far neither I nor dad has heard from him.

So now what?

Maybe I made him mad.  A day or so after the funeral I mailed him a copy of the funeral program thingy the funeral home prints out.

Dad says that since mom is no longer here that we won't hear from him again.  I have always felt that would be true but I guess I had hoped it wouldn't be so.  Mom so wanted to believe that my brother and would be close.  She thought right before she died that he was changing and would be here for me.  Guess she was wrong.

Kathy

On June 3rd it will have been a month since mom passed.

Tags: brother, niece, moms funeral, phone call,

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• #9 Comment from bhbner2him 
  6/8/08 2:45 PM | Permalink

  It is a shame.  Your brother doesn't know what he is missing.  Prayers for both of you.  =  Barbara
  
• #8 Comment from jibaro6543 
  6/7/08 8:51 PM | Permalink

  Kathy--I am so sorry I have been gone for so long....my heart just truly cries for you - I am at a loss for words...I am so sorry about your mom....I wish I was near by just to hug you or to listen to you......I am here if you ever need anything!!
  I am sorry about your brother....it is sad about him...one day it will come back to bite him in the butt....
  meantime...please know that my heart, prayers, and thoughts are there for you and your dad.....take care
  -Ellie
• #7 Comment from stupidsheetguy 
  6/5/08 2:31 PM | Permalink

  I wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you today and was wondering how you're doing. I'm sorry to see that this has developed, but I'll continue to hope that he comes around and that things work out for the family. You're dealing with a lot right now.
  
  Please take care,
  
  Jimmy
• #6 Comment from mortonlake 
  6/2/08 3:11 PM | Permalink

  i am so sorry kathy,  not reading many journals lately so catching up.   shocked at your brother  and  i feel for you.  in my thoughts        mort xxx
• #5 Comment from pamal3 
  6/1/08 3:41 PM | Permalink

  So sorry to hear that Kathy. I hope things get sorted out for you. Love Pam xx