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Feeling Mellow
Hearing just my thoughts in my head...
The Time of Our Life
Today I have been cleaning and thinking...
Tomorrow will be 18 years since my first date with Hubby.
That is awe inspiring, and freaky.
Why? Because, as I sit here contemplating that fact, I am struck by several incongrous things. I know it has in fact been 18 complete years in my mind/brain/logic and yet it doesn't 'feel' like it can be true.
Just like the fact that as I sit here at 42 1/2 which I know for a fact I am, I do not 'feel' like I can possibly be that age!
Bizarre. Mind boggling.
Just some random thoughts for you today, as they roll about my head... lol
Marriage. That's another thing I have been thinking about. You really have no clue at all what you are getting into when you get married. Your brain is all full of those endorphins of 'new love' and oh boy, reality hits hard.
Marriage is work. It is a full time job in and of itself if you want to have a good, growing, prosperous, happy one.
And, it is hard.
No one really tells you how hard. It's kind of like the childbirth/labor thing. No one really tells you the hardcore truth about that either. LOL
There is one thing that makes my marriage easy on the 'hard days/weeks/months/years'.
One thing.
And, it isn't that I 'love' my Hubby, because I have seen people who love each other have to be apart to be healthy and live.
No, love isn't quite enough, but it is a necessaryingredient.
The one thing is that we really ENJOY each other, are FRIENDS, and have FUN together.
That is what gets you through it all. Being able to laugh. Being able to really have fun and enjoying the time together. Really enjoying it. Not just getting through, doing what you have to do, but wanting to be with each other doing 'stuff'. Stupid stuff, life stuff. But, doing it together.
Yeah... like I said... just 'stuff' rolling around in my head today.
Okay... signing off. More things to clean, straighten and do. Looking forward to Hubby getting home from work. ;-)
be well,
Dawn
Yep... and he loves me anyway!
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Love the owlcat, too funny. You've hit the nail on the head about having a friend as a husband. Doug & I have a blast together, we truly do have fun together.
Great, uplifting entry!
Lisa -
I missed this entry and I'm so sorry I did! Great thoughts! I agree with you. You have to enjoy your partner. It's awesome that you and your hubby do. My hubby quit going to a men's class at church because it was all about not "getting" your spouse. He didn't feel like he needed any help there, that we were in a good place in our marriage. How wonderful is that?!
Traci -
Hi Dawn, I love entries with these random thoughts, you get a peek deep down inside. You are so very fortunate to have a marriage with your best friend. The work goes smoother. Do something special to celebrate that, I know you will.
42? And not feeling your age? Me either and you have to add 10 years to that for me. I think we have a different mind-set about age than previous generations. We don't want to act "our age" or at least what we pictured our age would be like when we were alot younger. I am so glad to belong to a generation that defines what this age should be for ourselves. Now if we could just get our bodies to join in with our mindset!
Smiles, Leigh
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Marriage is a heck of a hard job and love isn't enough. You are right about the fun and laughter. Nothing succeeds without laughing and true friendship. Blessings to you both! HUGS Chris
6/11/08 10:02 PM