Something Else To Think About

Because I Said So is on HBO right now...not that I don't have it! HA! I love Stephen Collins...isn't he hot! HA! There are sooo many great lines in that movie, like when Diane Keaton tells "Johnny" it is pride that is creating a wall & he should not waste one single minute. Man! I mean if you don't take the chance on love or risk on finding out & asking someone then you just will never know what it is all about! And if you can't take the risk on that then how will you ever risk other things in life & be able to have the courage to get through life.

I also love the ending where "Johnny" tells her what he loves about her...how all the quirky things others do not particular care for in her he loves! He gets her & also finds her so vibrant. I mean have fun people! Life is meant to have a blast! I think we forget this as we get older & those who don't forget really get what life is really about. Wild Abandonment is not necessarily bad or illegal or hurtful. It gets a real bad name! It is the spontaniety of life which makes life fun and joyful & full of energy.

And on that note I'll just say I bought red & green jingle bell earings tonight! HA! It will be here before you know it & despite the fact that I have medical bills up the Wahoo I refuse to not have fun! I need this holiday to keep me sane! HA! I just saw someone's house all lit up & decorated for Christmas already tonight on the way home. I said, "Thank You God I needed that" and I am going to start decorating! :-) I have Friday off & man I'm going to start bringing the spirit in. And the Lite FM is already playing Christmas music 24 hrs & AOL radio has some channels for Christmas so...let the spirit glow within! Take the chance & light your spirit with love anyway you can! :-)

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I know, I know..where have I been? HA! Well, lets see, 2 more weeks left of class, been spending time with the new beau & my niece & last week my sister announced she is engaged and is going to be married in mid Oct! This has sent the family into a Wedding Craze. [shaking head] So I'm sure I'll be posting more later about that...but I heard this on the radio a few days ago & it is just AWESOME for my class & I wanted to share it with you. I always tell my students you do have to watch because other kids are observing you all over & they may get in trouble for something you taught them! HA! Hope you like it!

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HI!

Been meaning to get this posted for a few days now. It was odd but I had this really peaceful day. I was so grounded and realized that others are just going to be not so nice in life but it really doesn't have to affect me. I don't mean this like I don't feel compassion for them & not care, but rather it doesn't have to make me upset or have them bring the worst out of me in response. It just popped in my head "Where there is hatred let there be love" and I just smiled, felt so warm & loved and thought that is what I will do all day. I just had a day were I said people can be icky & I can just be soooo incredibly wonderful back to them. I know hard to do everyday, but it was a day that I was able to. I have a bumper sticker in my SUV window which says, "The Best Revenge is to Love Your Enemy". That idea!

Then I was thinking why are these people (or us on some days) so bad? My brain was just firing so wild that day...and on the radio was "You Lost That Loving Feeling" and yep that was it...lack of love. "All We Need Is Love" dadadadada....ha! Dr. Dyer always says to send love out and you will get love & that is really true! It just feels so good to say "You can't make me feel bad!" you know. Just wish I could do that everyday all day long! :-) All we can do is try each new time.

Ok, I couldn't decide! HA! They are all good! Enjoy!

The Righteous Brothers:

Top Gun:

Elvis:

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Hi Everyone!

OMG...I could not believe these when I listened! Have you seen them? First is a 6 yr old girl that Simon loved in Britain American Idol. My God what will she be like later when she is older and has teeth! HA! Next a guy who sells cell phones and sings better than Pavarotti! I'd buy his CD today!

I had my little niece listen & told her this is why when people walk down the street you never know what special talents God has given them and we should never judge people.

They made me cry..I know everything makes me cry! HA! I wish I could sing, at least a bit better than I do. I just love singing but hopefully I have some other special gift. I just can't imagine all these people in the world with equally special talents in other disciplines & they are not able to potentiate them for one reason or another. I have students with such great potential but they have to work to support their families or take care of an ill family member etc. I have one student now who is combining theories & taking it to a higher level! And get this...she is only going to be a SR in HS in the fall. She would be great for grad school now! HA!

Well, tomorrow as you walk buy people grocery shopping or someone is stopped next to you at the light, try thinking for a moment that they may have an amazing talent rather than judging them because they are being slow or something!

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Hi...

Sorry I didn't get this posted yesterday. I was doing pretty good earlier in the day, took Sam & Ella back to the vet, enjoyed the lovely weather on the way there & back, found a few tops on sale I've been needing and then later in the evening I got into some kind of funk. Interesting how quickly we can go from one emotion to the other, and how very little it can take...which though when you think about it does give hope to go back to the happy state! :-)  I'm still working on it but a bit better now. If my shoulder would loosen up I'd be really happy...of course it may be that I need to get happy for it to loosen up...I know, you can see right now where I'm at. HA!

Ok, so where am I going with this & what is with the catepillars & butterflies etc? Well, last night I read my newsletter from Deepak Chopra on Transformations. And what is the first words right out of the box?

Change can be scary.

EEECK!!!! Well, really? I know that very well. Well, to some degree...you know we don't mind change when we are young do we. I have nieces so trust me, even if I couldn't remember, which I do, they remind me all the time! The soon to be 10 yr old came home from school & told her mom that some boy asked her to be his girlfriend. She said yes of course because "he was cute" and he tells her that she has to play basketball with him everyday after school! HA! Not a few weeks before this she got in my car to come for the weekend & said, "Auntie..look at my pierced ears & my nails & my new (training) bra!" AHHHHH! Where did that little girl go? Of course she is all thrilled. I give her tablets to write words. Last time she was picking words out of my psych text to learn...her teacher is going to love that one but I loved it. Well, I went to see what new words she had & instead I found...

"Dear Diary....

I have my first boyfriend. I'm so excited to have our first kiss. He is so handsom(e),"

UGH! I have no idea where she got those genes! ;-) She has been boy crazy for years though she did once tell me they don't like girls & I said well, you know they think girls have cooties for a while but they will come around.

Now on the same day my 16 yr old niece came home & told her mom that her boyfriend of like 8 mo came up to her & her friends & told her he didn't like her anymore, he was at some girls house the last two nights watching tv & wanted to break up with her. My little niece said she was crying all night.   

Now, both are going through Transformations & they are eager to do this. They can't wait to wear make-up, date, drive, go to college etc. I'm like Whoooo baby...lets put the brakes on a bit, but they can't wait. Do you remember this? HA! I do! Like that day I got to walk into my dorm & my folks were leaving! It is a good thing they could not see the big ole smile on my face. Ha! I was just so thrilled to be on my own. Now not that may parents were not wonderful, they were...I think they are worse now! Ha!

Now Deepak says...

With change comes the unknown…the uncertain. And we often fear what we don’t know.

You know it was a bit scary when we were younger, maybe for some more than me but, we didn't really fear the unknown then. We got in that car for driver's ed...it was our folks that feared the unknown of that! HA! We didn't fear dating the "unknown guy". We didn't fear going to that college party and not knowing what would happen. Ha! Somewhere later the unknown seems to get a bit scarier. Isn't that interesting. Is it because there are possibly more consequences?  

The next big point he reminds us of...

You have your version of how things are supposed to work out.

Whooo baby! How true is that for many of us! I know it is for me. I mean well they tell you to plan & then they say don't care if those plans work out? This seems contradictory! HA! But I know what he is getting at. We should still keep in mind that no matter how things work out it may be for the best & a lesson for us & will transform us nontheless. How it transforms us also depends on what perspective we choose to have.

P.S. I always love these fuzzy ones when I see them! :-)

Next, Deepak gets really deep...dare he "thinks too much" ha!

But change comes in each moment. You are not the same person you were when you began to read this. Those few sentences above are now part of your make-up. Every interaction, conversation, meal, thought, and activity you engage in today will shift your physiology and your emotional state. We’re often not aware of these subtle shifts because they happen so incrementally. Yet by tomorrow, you will be changed – even if only a bit.

How true! We don't really notice this. It is when we feel the big shifts. This brings me back to how our started me posting on my emotional state transforming. Just think of music how quickly a song can transform your mood, or someone telling a joke or like today in Wal Mart, I'm in line & these parents in the line next to me have twin boys in a stroller. The stroller is one child behind the other. They are screaming & the father is saying "Did you bite the other one" and wasn't being at all bad with the boys but then the older brother, maybe 5-6 yrs old came up to the one behind who may have had his finger bit & he checks out his finger & he gave the most tender hug to his brother...I was like OMG...this young boy when he grows up if he is the same way he is going to melt the womens hearts! It didn't hurt that he was a very attractive boy too. I was like where is my 10 yr old niece...she should meet him, he'd only be 5 yrs younger...ha! My niece is like that too so they would be a perfect match. Well, I was just so overwhelmed with a loving feeling. I was smiling at him so much. He saw me and I'm glad becasue that would be great positive reinforcement (oops did I let that psych term come out! HA!) I was going to say something to the parents but I didn't get close enough to strike up the conversation. That little boy changed my emotional state soooooo much! We get into our adult worlds & stress & if we observe children more, play with them etc we can get back to a good place. And we have to watch what they are observing & learning from us...ugh!

Sorry I couldn't resist with this one! Ha! Humor is good!

Deepak then goes on to say...

One of the reasons we fear this change is that we think that once we change, we will be stuck there – doomed for eternity to suffer the scenario you feared most. But what if you could embrace the fact that your transformation never stops. That wherever you are in your mind will change and wherever you end up, that too will change. The person you will be tomorrow will transform again into the person of the next day and the next. Now you are able to see not just the static aspects of yourself but the ever growing, ever re-birthing, ever-evolving aspect of you. And there’s a bonus…each time you transform…you open yourself to an abundance of possibilities which means you have the ability to be reborn in each moment.

Can I get a YIPEE! :-) You know we forget that when we are down or well it is just hard to realize when you are in the middle of it. When you lost that job, or loss a loved one or a relationship stops etc. People will try to tell you this, which usually just makes things worse but it is really true. This reminds me of the saying in "The Sound of Music" "When God closes a door, he opens a window". I always tell my mom he manages to open the windows on the 64th floor though! HA! Sorry, guess I'm in a better mood now...must be thinking of that little boy again. You know there are just moments in ones life you will never forget...like little reminders to think of again later. Like now that Braves just got ahead of the Cubs...ugh! I really do believe there are messages everyday if we are observing...even in ourselves. And I think we give them to others also. Sometimes we are the bad example of what not to do though but maybe that does serve a purpose in a way. No, I'm not excusing bad behavior here but I know when I see someone getting upset I say, "See that is what you look like so be careful!"

A beautiful Transformation I found!

Last point I want to share from Deepak's posting...

In every moment we have a choice. Whatever we choose, we are opening ourselves to transformation and the abundance of possibilities it offers us.

Oh man...the key word here is CHOICE!!!!  We forget that every action we do, even what we speak, listen to & think about is a CHOICE! Who we listen to and Believe...friends or family who do not send good messages, who do not see in us the potential & help us get there rather than bring us down etc! We need to be very careful to resist those kind of messages transforming us in a unhealthy way. It is not love that does this! They may think so but it isn't! And I'm not saying they are trying to be hurtful, even the best of us don't always realize it. I think I need to add a reminder here. I have this on a beautiful poster in my Angel bathroom right next to the angel that is blowing you a kiss. I know interesting theme for a bathroom but...

(I just realized from copying & pasting from the web this was not the one I had. Not bad but I'm retyping this to what I have!)

Love is patient and kind;
Love is not jealous or boastful;
It is not arrogant or rude.
Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things,
believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends.

We don't always remember this in the heat of the moment when we are upset. Sometimes we are kinder to strangers than the people we love. Hmmm...something to keep working on.

Lastly, I wanted to use this just perfect collage of butterflies below to remind us to celebrate the diversity in our transformations. We are all on different places in our transformations. We don't all go through the same transformations, and thank God that would be boring. We can learn from each other. We should see the beautiful differences in each & every one of us. Isn't it odd that when we see different butterflies we stop & notice them & point them out. We need to do this more with people! We need to remember that even people who are not quite in a good place are still transforming and have so much potential & we can choose to help their transformation or hurt it.

Ok, have I exhausted this? HA! I'm still thinking! :-)

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Just a sitting duck in a Torando Watch! Ugh! We are suppose to get 90mph winds! OMG! Ok, I am teaching on Tues & Thurs starting this week and I pop in my office tonight while my students are watching a video & I have a voicemail. It is my new sweetie in my life who has the most amazing big, warm & relaxing hugs ... and that is just the beginning! ;-) !!! He leaves a message that he is going to come when I'm done with work & follow me home because of the weather. Isn't that just the sweetest! He makes me cry all the time...happy tears. He is so sweet to me...so far? :-) Well, turned out the weather was delayed so he just let me call when I was home. Now this tornado watch is until 5am! Ugh!

So now I'm just sitting here hoping this weather goes by without causing chaos! So I have to divert my attention in a good way...and I see I have an newsletter email from SARK! I have her on my favorite sites.

 

I'm listening to an interview with her about her newest book Frienship Festival & also some of her other books too. I LOVE her books! I did just get this newest books but haven't been able to read it. I plan to start this weekend. I wanted to share this opportunity to listen to this interview with you. I hope you enjoy it! I think she starts in about 14 min into the time frame and it only goes to about 53 so not too bad? Total fun!

** LISTEN HERE **

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Ok, I bet you are wondering...sorry!

My back has been bothering me a bit & my niece came in for the weekend & well, I've been going out with this guy & ummm.... ;-) I'm having a great time. He makes me laugh & ya, at the risk of finding out still later he is a dog & my heart getting bruised (again), he makes me feel so special and he treats me so wonderfully. I have been the one that has been quite hesitant. The first night he was up in my face, literally nose to nose, getting serious on how he will treat me and that he will wait for me to be confortable with him and trust him ...I don't know what he picked up on me that he could sense it, but he did. He is like me when I think of songs & movies. He gave me the example of Garth Brooks "The Dance" and "Standing Outside The Fire" & I love those songs & do believe it but it is so hard to still stand or dance inside the fire.

The Dance:

Standing Outside the Fire:

Well last night I think I let go of a lot & God I was thinking he would get scared & run but so far he isn't. It was harder than I thought taking the risk again but I also knew if I didn't open up then I would like him more & more & it would be harder if he left later. I think what was really shocking me was how comfortable I do feel with him so quickly. It is just odd. Like I should be more held back. I don't know I'm just starting to let go & go with it as he says and whatever will happen will happen. I'm thinking somehow the endorphins he is managing to kick in are helping my back too! HA! ;-)

So I offer both these songs today as inspiration so that you chose to Stand Inside the Fire in whatever area ofyour life you are hesitating and that in the end you will understand it was still worth The Dance.

Tags: Inspiration, Inspiring, Fate

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Well first let me apologize for not posting yesterday. I came home Tuesday evening & my cable & internet were out. Comcast came out Wed afternoon. I then had to run errands & didn't get back until after 10pm & then I just was so pooped. I'm just getting my act together now.

Now this posting is an inspired one that makes me always wonder about "signs". Remember the movie "Fools Rush In" & "there are signs everywhere" well there are literally but...

Ok, this is what happened. I picked up an older edition of Oprah's magazine to read her "What I Know For Sure" (read the one I read here!). It was about our hearts having imprints from others on them. She talked about Mattie Stepanek having imprints on our hearts for example. Then I finished reading this & come to my computer & the first journal posting I read is Winivere's "You Left Imprints On My Heart". Is that not freaky! You think it was trying to tell me something?

I had found out a great-aunt of mine died this morning & I remember a number of years ago a very special gentleman telling me that people are pieces of our heart like a puzzle and it is sad when a piece is missing. I think now I think of it as not missing really, but rather it is a piece that is placed in there completely & now you look for other pieces. Sometimes they pass away, sometimes they just are not in our lives anymore for another reason but they still have a role in developing our heart. Oprah said...

"That's what love does: It fills you up, mends the tattered and broken spaces in your spirit. It makes you feel whole."

It is also interesting because I have been asking God lately just how goofy he really is. Let me explain...

Ok, about a week ago I met this guy shopping for a gift for my cousin & well I thought he was just being nice to me. I never think they are interested in me. He is really funny. I love guys that make me laugh, and the fact that he is a die hard Cubs fan works majorly in his favor!!! Well, I kept thinking about him. Hmm..that should have told me something! I saw him last night & well its definite...he is interested. He asked me out last night & I was like so shocked because that incredibly wonderful feeling when someone is interested in you just automatically came over me. I don't even know where it came from & I'm a bit surprised. Even surprised I'm surprised? Ha! I don't know what to make of it. I guess I'm at a place where I'm ok to feel that way again? Hmmm....I'm not sure I am though but its like, oh well too bad you do. I mean I know he could be a dog, but I guess I'll find out & that is ok. Wierd. So I think God is like a mad scientist combining steaming different colored liquids & saying lets see what happens to her when I add these two & then you see a mini explosion & lots of smoke & hear this weird laugh from him. Well, more lately like he has a voodoo doll of me & is putting pins in it with my back etc. HA! It is just not a good time, my herniated disks, I'm not at my best spirit etc. I just have the weirdest timing for one reason or another in my life. Of course not...life couldn't be even a bit easy for me even for a moment! Ugh! What would a high need for achiever do with an easy life. HA!

So, then to connect this, in case you have lost this, it makes me wonder...maybe it is "the perfect timing"?! Maybe I need this now. Maybe it will heal my heart? Maybe it will mend my tattered pieces & make me feel whole. Even if it is just for a bit...a jump starting of it, so it can get going again? Not that is has been dead but you know this just makes it a bit more energize & special & I don't know...it is just a nice feeling to have isn't it. Maybe it will energize me to heal my body? Maybe he will lead me to "the one" who wants to hold my heart tenderly and take care of it & let me do the same for him. Life is just soooo bizarre isn't it! So, I guess I want to say, we may feel at times that our hearts can get hurt very badly when love ends for one reason or another but it also has such tremendous power to heal and make us stronger if we let it. Each of us can do this for others & there are so many on this planet that can do this for us. I also think that many times those whose hearts are so cold it is because they do not have someone who is loving them and seeing them as somone special on this planet that can do anything they wanted in a more positive way and that is so sad. Well, I'm going to go see this man tonight who is tingling my heart. I hope you have a lovely evening as well.

Tags: Inspiration, Inspiring, hearts, healing

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Today, or rather yesterday now, was a day to honor some of our heroes. Not to diminish their significance, but it made me think of really the idea that we should have a day which honors so many other types of heroes or Angels in our lives. It also makes me think of who are our heroes? What does it take to be hero? There are so many everyday ordinary heroes. Do we tell those we consider our heroes? Are we are hero to someone? Remember Sandra Bullock's line in "While You Were Sleeping" when she tells Peter Gallagher he is a hero for giving up his seat to a woman..."It is to the person who you gave the seat to." Also, remember Grumpy Old Men when Jack Lemon asks Ann-Margret if she believes in Angels & she says, "Oh ya, they are all around us. You have to look hard but they are there whenever anything good happens to us." :-)

Who is the wind beneath your wings? I just love Bette and this song.  It is songs like this that I wish I had a better voice so I could sing them to those who I consider my heroes.

     Did you ever know that you're my hero,
     and ev'rything I would like to be?
     I can fly higher than an eagle,
     'cause you are the wind beneath my wings.

And I think this is what I look for in people (& probably a mate)...there is a light in them. It is like they smile with their eyes. They "get it"...they KNOW what life is really about.  They make it their mission to make other people's lives better. I think I like being around them so I can push myself to do that more each day myself. They are also ones who see the potential in you, sometimes more than you do. They are someone who gets others to think more positively of themselves & the world. Some may call them unrealistic, butI call them optimisitc...think about that! Hmmm...

Which brings me to this next song of Bette's. They believe in all posibilities. They keep striving to make the world a better place. I tell my students when they see some type of brick wall, barrier in their lives, that they do not have to knock down the whole wall. If they think about it, they can each make a contribution...a small hole in the wall & with everyone's effort it can come down. Also, if they think about it, a few small holes placed strategically could bring the wall down with very little effort. In this way we can all be heroes with every step we take. Opening a door for someone, etc. it collectively adds to make the world a happier and better place.  And really...if you think about it...isn't it just LOVE?! Love for life...love for the planet and all creatures on it. It is someone who is grounded and knows Love is the only thing that matters.  

Check out this website of heroes like Mattie Stepanek and others!

Ok, so now that I've totally gone sappy I'll go! ;-)

Tags: Inspiration, Inspiring, Heroes

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