Letting It All Sink In

I found this and it made me smile....just wanted to share


Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby.....somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother "normal" is history.

Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct....somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.

Somebody said being a mother is boring....somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.

Somebody said if you're a "good" mother, your child will "turn out good"....somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.

Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their voices....somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor's kitchen window.

Somebody said you don't need an education to be amother....somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math.

Somebody said you can't love the fifth child as much as you love the first....somebody doesn't have five children.

Somebody said a mothe can find all the answers to her childrearing questions in the books....somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is lavor and delivery....somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten....or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp'.

Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back....somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies.

Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married....somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home....somebody never had grandchildren.


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Thank you to all of you for your concern and especially for your advice in this incident with Kyle.  I really appreciate hearing how other parents would handle it or how they feel about this kind of thing.  THANK YOU!!

It's been an interesting few days since this all took place.  A lot of emotion and frustration!!
The next morning we were trying to decide whether it was a good idea to send Kyle to school.  His eye looked horrible. 
I didn't want to send him to school, I just wanted to keep him home, comfort him and make sure he was okay.  It was a tough decision but we decided that he needed to go to school and face the kid that did it and be able to defend his side of the story.  If Kyle didn't show up we felt like the 'rumors' would start to circulate and who knows what would go around.  Kyle seemed to be okay with going to school and we talked to him and told him he needed to tell it like it happened and not to be ashamed of it. 

I worried about him ALL day long...it was awful wondering if he was okay and if he was handling it okay.  I was miserable! 
My husband ended up calling one of the high school coaches he knows to ask him his thoughts on if it was a smart thing to send Kyle back to school the next day.  The coach said 'most definitely'!  He said that the kids would have been talking all about it and it's good for Kyle to be there to show them he's okay....even if he looks like he's been beaten up. 

Well...when I picked Kyle up from school he seemed to be doing pretty good....he told me the kids were pretty mad at what 'R' had done.  I think it gave Kyle a boost to know his friends  were concerned about him. 

I ended up talking to the mother and letting her know what happened.  She was upset and apologetic and she told me she would call me when she had a chance to talk to 'R' about what happened. 
Luckily 'R's version was very close to what Kyle said happened.  He admitted to kicking Kyle in the head. 
My husband ended up talking to the mother and then the father about this too....letting them know we felt like this was a very serious situation and not normal fighting ~
Kicking someone when they are down on the ground and continually kicking them in the head....is serious and very violent.  The father didn't say too much about this other than he wanted to get the other kids account of what went on....he wanted witness's to the fight.  WHATEVER!! 
The mother brought 'R' over to our house to apologize.  It went okay...the boys sat on the couch and never looked at each other while 'R's mother talked to them. 
We got them to apologize to each other and shake hands.  It was awkward but I think it went well.  I don't think they will be fast friends and that's fine....I'm just glad that they were able to say they were sorry to each other.  Kyle apologized for 'making fun of him' and 'R' apologized for kicking and hitting him in the head.

Tonight the boys had a basketball game where they had to play together and we, the parents, had to sit in the stands and watch them.  No, we didn't sit by the parents...but that's fine...I don't need to.  They played the game and the boys' team won....it was a come from behind game and all seems to be okay. 

Please let things be okay and we don't have anything like this happen again. 




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When I walked in the door this evening around 8:30 pm, I found my youngest son sitting on the couch waiting for me....he had a look on his face like something bad had happened.  It was a sullen and very worried look, I could tell he needed to tell me something.
As I got close to him I noticed that something was wrong with his right eye....

It was swollen and turning black and blue!!

I asked him what had happened and he told me he and his buddies were playing football and he and 'R' collided and 'R's head hit him right below his right eye. 
It was a big OUCH!!!
Time for ICE!!!  

I had him lie down on the couch and take it easy while he kept the ice pack on. 

Pretty soon Kyle is starting to ask me about his eye....lots of questions.....
like....how swollen and how black and blue was it going to get.  Then he starts telling me and repeating how he doesn't want to go to school tomorrow. 
At this point I wasn't thinking to much about all the questions because Kyle is a pretty shy kid and doesn't like a lot of attention or focus on him. 
I could certainly understand not wanting to go to school and have everyone asking you the same question over and over....."What happened?" 

Well, I ended up taking a couple of pictures of Kyle and sending them in an email to Steve at work with the subject line  "Look who got in a fight!!!" 
While I waited for Steve to call home with a "OMG" and to then explain it was an accident ~ just boys being boys!  
Kyle was getting more and more worried about going to school in the morning and he mentioned he didn't want to talk to his dad about what happened because he didn't want his 'dad to get all weird about it' 
Okay...I have to admit at this point I wasn't getting it.  Yet. 
Until Steve called home and we started talking about Kyle and how the accident happened and how he was acting now.  Steve asked me "are you sure it wasn't a fight?"  hmmmm  The more we chatted the more convinced I was that Kyle wasn't telling the whole story.  Steve even tried calling Kyle on his cell phone to talk to him but Kyle wouldn't answer....Kyle wasn't about to talk to his dad. 
Something was up!!!
While I was on the phone, downstairs in the office, with Steve....Kyle calls me on his cell phone from his bedroom (yes, we are in the same house....yes I know it's insane) so I switch over to talk to him and he's doing the same stuff....
'don't want to talk to dad'
'don't want to go to school'
I then ask him 'Kyle did this happen while you were playing football or did you get in a fight?'
SILENCE!!!!!
I go right up to his bedroom and when he sees me he throws the covers over his head.  I sit down on his bed and start talking to him, trying to convince him I'm not going to be mad and that I want him to tell me what happened....I need to know.  He starts crying and tells me "No, you guys will think I'm a wimp."   My heart just sank....I felt awful...I felt awful for him.  This was tough!!  My oldest son was in the room and he stopped playing games on his computer to listen and to talk to Kyle too.
We found out that he was playing basketball with his friends at 'R's & C's house (twins).  Kyle and 'R' were on the same team when Kyle yelled at 'R' and told him he wasn't trying hard enough....
'R' told Kyle to
'Shut up!!  You know I could beat the crap out of you'.....
they then started pushing each other and Kyle said he turned to walk away and that's when 'R' came up from behind him and shoved him to the ground hitting him in the face and kicking him in the back.  Kyle said when he sat up that 'R' continued to kick him, kicking him in the head.

I'm furious and sick about this....I can tell Kyle is really upset and he's hurt...both physically but especially his feelings. 
One thing that I can't believe happened is that after the fight....Kyle covered up what happened to 'R's' mom....he told me he didn't want 'R' to get in trouble!!!  What is that all about??? 

Now Steve and Cam both are telling Kyle that he needs to go to school tomorrow and stand his ground with 'R' telling him it was a 'cheap shot' and if you want to fight let's fight. 
OMG...okay...I understand about having to stand you're ground and not let this kid think he got the best of you...but to fight again?  

Steve feels like something like this can change a kids life or how he see himself, his confidence, his reputation. 

He remembers when he was about 11 his dad found out that the neighborhood bully had been mouthing off...giving Steve a tough time, so his dad marched him down to the park where the kid was and had them fight.  Steve got the best of that kid and he's never forgotten it.

I'm worried about Kyle....he's a tough little guy and intense when it comes to a lot of things but he's very tender hearted.  Tomorrow is going to be a tough day having to face this kid.  I hope it's all about getting along and no more fighting....but Kyle coming out on top of this one!!


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With 2 teenagers and one pre-teen in the house you never know what’s going to happen. 
Just recently our oldest informed me that he received a speeding ticket on his way home from his girlfriends.  He was going 72 in a 55!!
Then within a week of my son’s ticket my daughter, who has only been driving since January, received her first speeding ticket.  She was on her way from her high school to the Sr. high for soccer and was caught going 48 in a 35mph.

Gotta love it!!

We found out my son’s ticket will cost $215.00 Ouch!!  We’ve informed him he will have to pay this one….this one is his responsibility.  We paid for his first ticket a year or so ago.  :)
For my daughter, she will have to appear in court in the next week or so because of her age and then we’ll find out what it will cost us for her ticket.  I think she will have to re-pay us with some kind of work around the house since she doesn’t have a job at the moment.  Do you think I can get her to pick up the dog poop in the back yard?   :)

You know, I worry a lot about my kids especially now that the 2 oldest are out there driving.  I worry every time they leave the house and get in their car and head off down the road.  I’m always thinking and worrying about where they are and if they’re ok.  It’s always nice to see them walk in the door safe and sound at the end of the day.
KIDS!!!
I count my blessing every day that they do



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I think you all know by now that my husband loves to golf.  I’ve written in here about how he hints around and tries to get me to get out on the golf course with him.  I’m usually not too thrilled about getting out there because it’s just not the first thing on my mind….(oh boy, I could say that about something else too!!  ;)    
Anyway…back to golf.  
This morning Steve was making those ever so subtle hints about what a beautiful day it was….so on and so on.  I didn’t respond at first, remember this is something that I have to think about for a little while.  It’s a mind set kind of thing, like getting your game face on.  Well….I was able to get my game face on and I surprised Steve with “Okay, let’s go golfing.”  You should’ve seen his face light up, that was one happy man. 



It was a beautiful morning and very warm, we played 9 holes and had a lot of fun.  It turned out to be a great day…..I even got lucky and found a $10.00 bill on the 18th hole.  YAY…yippee!! 
It was lying there in the grass as we drove by.  I have no idea how it caught my eye but there it was and I yelled  “STOP…there’s money.”
Steve stopped the cart and I jumped out and ran over and picked it up.  Nothing like finding money.  :)
This is the second time I’ve found money on the golf course….a year or so ago I found a $1.00 bill in a creek (yes, I was looking for my lost ball in the water) and as I was picking it up I noticed another bill and so I reached for the second one and it was a $20.00.  Now, that was fun!!
All in all, today was a good day….$10.00 and I played my best 9 holes of golf ever.  
I shot a 53….which isn’t bad for me.  
I’d say golf was worth it today!! 


When we got home from golfing we went out and sat by the pool.  It was hot out there today ~ 99 degrees!!  Unusually hot for this time of the year but I’m not complaining.  :)  I ended up getting in the water and lying on one of the lounge/floats and falling asleep for a little while.  My kind of day!!




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    Happy Easter!!

      



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I've wasted a lot of time the past two days, I haven't felt good. 
I ended up back in bed both days and slept the day away....well not the entire day but darn near close.
Yesterday it was 12:30 pm when I finally got out of bed and then I never did quite have the energy to get very much done.  Then today, I did the same thing but I got up at 11 am...it's better than noon I guess.  I'm battling a UTI and trying to do it without having to call the doctor, so it's cranberry juice by the gallons. ICKY!!!  I don't like it.
By mid day I seem to feel better it's just in the mornings that I'm hating life.  I'm crossing my fingers that I've downed enough cranberry juice to kill this thing. 

I'm sitting here thinking about how I don't have anything for the kids for Easter....yes, my kids are too old for the easter bunny.  In fact, I was teasing my 12 yr old son about what he wanted from the easter bunny and he looked at me like.....
"ugggh MOM, what planet are you from?" 
He rolls his eyes at me and proceeds to inform me that I'm the easter bunny...HA HA HA.
I guess I need to run to the store so I can fill some easter baskets with something.
Oh wait....I do have a secret stash of candy..... I have a big jar of Jelly Belly's that I bought on Monday and I've been sneaking handfuls of them every so often....maybe that's what's making me sick.
Okay...off to run some errands while I have the energy to do so.








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At the Court of Honor sunday night, reality started to kick in....

I could feel myself getting emotional especially with the slide show presentation about the boys.  As I was sitting there watching Cams' and seeing his baby pictures, to his little boy ones to now, it really got to me.  I held it together ~ only a few tears but I realized things are starting to happen.....and I can't believe it!

Cam is graduating from high school in 6 weeks!!
Then at the end of summer ~ off to college!

I believe I've made the choice to ignore what will be happening, I've put it on the back burner thinking it would go away.  Well, I can't do that anymore it's time to accept the fact that he's graduating and he's on his way....out the door.

This must be the reason I'm weepy and feeling a little out of sorts.  There's a lot to do and I need to focus on what's happening. 

I need to find out if any of our immediate family will be able to come to his graduation and where they'll stay. 
Oh boy...Cam's graduation announcements need to be sent out.  We've ordered the pictures that will go in with the announcements so when those get here the announcements can go out.
Cam picked up his cap and gown the other day so we have that.  He's already told us what he wants for a graduation present.....a Mac laptop, that was the first thing on his list.  :)   We better not forget that!

Oh yeah...Prom is in 2 weeks and he's part of the Prom committee so he's definitely going with his girlfriend to that.  I need to see if his Tux still fits him.  The tux is one of his dad's old ones.

This time of year gets so busy and I'm usually excited and happy about it but it looks like it will be with mixed emotions that all of this is happening.  A lot of reflecting and rushing to get things done.

I just need to breathe, let the tears fall.....and enjoy what
is going on around me. 


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He's an Eagle Scout!!

           

My little guy started scouts when he was 8 years old and learned many skills and many tough lessons......
building pine wood derby cars, learning to tie knots....learning knife safety but forgetting that you should never walk with a knife in your mouth....Slip....OOPS....OUCH!!!
A visit to the emergency room and a plastic surgeon putting 7 stitches in his upper lip. 
Next lesson learned....when an aerosol can made it into the campfire and everyone had to duck and scramble when it did what it was supposed to do.....can we say, EXPLODE!!
No one was injured but scared the living daylights out of everyone. 

NO MORE aerosol cans allowed on campouts.

Time to learn how to save a life, CPR and bandaging. 

Good life skills learned!!

These past ten years spent in scouting has given Cam life lessons, skills and the bonds of friendship.  These are things he will always have...friendships that will always be.




I'm one proud mom.


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Just got walked in the door from going on a walk/run for the first time in I don't know how long....it's been ages since this body has been working out or exercising.  Can I tell you I always 'think' about exercising.  I always go through the process of "Okay....TODAY, I will get out there and run.  HA!!  I even go as far as getting into my workout clothes and then never step foot out the door.  PATHETIC!! 
I've heard a saying about running/working out
"The harderst part is getting out the door"
and it's so true for me....I can find a million reasons or excuses or the "I will do it later" and then never get around to it.

Well....today I did it, I got out the door and it was good.  My husband and I both went and we did a 3 mile half walk, half run.  It was gorgeous outside...sunny and warm.  It was nice to get out there and walk, talk ~ run, husband talks ( I can't talk while I run)  :)   We've both decided we've added a few too many pounds over the winter and it's that time of year when the shorts come out and the dreaded swim suits......
so, time to get busy and RUN MY ARSE OFF  ~
well....Walk then run!  




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