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Thursday, May 4, 2006
When I walked in the door this evening around 8:30 pm, I found my youngest son sitting on the couch waiting for me....he had a look on his face like something bad had happened. It was a sullen and very worried look, I could tell he needed to tell me something.
As I got close to him I noticed that something was wrong with his right eye....
It was swollen and turning black and blue!!
I asked him what had happened and he told me he and his buddies were playing football and he and 'R' collided and 'R's head hit him right below his right eye.
It was a big OUCH!!!
Time for ICE!!!
I had him lie down on the couch and take it easy while he kept the ice pack on.
Pretty soon Kyle is starting to ask me about his eye....lots of questions.....
like....how swollen and how black and blue was it going to get. Then he starts telling me and repeating how he doesn't want to go to school tomorrow.
At this point I wasn't thinking to much about all the questions because Kyle is a pretty shy kid and doesn't like a lot of attention or focus on him.
I could certainly understand not wanting to go to school and have everyone asking you the same question over and over....."What happened?"
Well, I ended up taking a couple of pictures of Kyle and sending them in an email to Steve at work with the subject line "Look who got in a fight!!!"
While I waited for Steve to call home with a "OMG" and to then explain it was an accident ~ just boys being boys!
Kyle was getting more and more worried about going to school in the morning and he mentioned he didn't want to talk to his dad about what happened because he didn't want his 'dad to get all weird about it'
Okay...I have to admit at this point I wasn't getting it. Yet.
Until Steve called home and we started talking about Kyle and how the accident happened and how he was acting now. Steve asked me "are you sure it wasn't a fight?" hmmmm The more we chatted the more convinced I was that Kyle wasn't telling the whole story. Steve even tried calling Kyle on his cell phone to talk to him but Kyle wouldn't answer....Kyle wasn't about to talk to his dad.
Something was up!!!
While I was on the phone, downstairs in the office, with Steve....Kyle calls me on his cell phone from his bedroom (yes, we are in the same house....yes I know it's insane) so I switch over to talk to him and he's doing the same stuff....
'don't want to talk to dad'
'don't want to go to school'
I then ask him 'Kyle did this happen while you were playing football or did you get in a fight?'
SILENCE!!!!!
I go right up to his bedroom and when he sees me he throws the covers over his head. I sit down on his bed and start talking to him, trying to convince him I'm not going to be mad and that I want him to tell me what happened....I need to know. He starts crying and tells me "No, you guys will think I'm a wimp." My heart just sank....I felt awful...I felt awful for him. This was tough!! My oldest son was in the room and he stopped playing games on his computer to listen and to talk to Kyle too.
We found out that he was playing basketball with his friends at 'R's & C's house (twins). Kyle and 'R' were on the same team when Kyle yelled at 'R' and told him he wasn't trying hard enough....
'R' told Kyle to
'Shut up!! You know I could beat the crap out of you'.....
they then started pushing each other and Kyle said he turned to walk away and that's when 'R' came up from behind him and shoved him to the ground hitting him in the face and kicking him in the back. Kyle said when he sat up that 'R' continued to kick him, kicking him in the head.
I'm furious and sick about this....I can tell Kyle is really upset and he's hurt...both physically but especially his feelings.
One thing that I can't believe happened is that after the fight....Kyle covered up what happened to 'R's' mom....he told me he didn't want 'R' to get in trouble!!! What is that all about???
Now Steve and Cam both are telling Kyle that he needs to go to school tomorrow and stand his ground with 'R' telling him it was a 'cheap shot' and if you want to fight let's fight.
OMG...okay...I understand about having to stand you're ground and not let this kid think he got the best of you...but to fight again?
Steve feels like something like this can change a kids life or how he see himself, his confidence, his reputation.
He remembers when he was about 11 his dad found out that the neighborhood bully had been mouthing off...giving Steve a tough time, so his dad marched him down to the park where the kid was and had them fight. Steve got the best of that kid and he's never forgotten it.
I'm worried about Kyle....he's a tough little guy and intense when it comes to a lot of things but he's very tender hearted. Tomorrow is going to be a tough day having to face this kid. I hope it's all about getting along and no more fighting....but Kyle coming out on top of this one!!
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Swollen & Black & blue
When I walked in the door this evening around 8:30 pm, I found my youngest son sitting on the couch waiting for me....he had a look on his face like something bad had happened. It was a sullen and very worried look, I could tell he needed to tell me something.
As I got close to him I noticed that something was wrong with his right eye....
It was swollen and turning black and blue!!
I asked him what had happened and he told me he and his buddies were playing football and he and 'R' collided and 'R's head hit him right below his right eye.
It was a big OUCH!!!
Time for ICE!!!
I had him lie down on the couch and take it easy while he kept the ice pack on.
Pretty soon Kyle is starting to ask me about his eye....lots of questions.....
like....how swollen and how black and blue was it going to get. Then he starts telling me and repeating how he doesn't want to go to school tomorrow.
At this point I wasn't thinking to much about all the questions because Kyle is a pretty shy kid and doesn't like a lot of attention or focus on him.
I could certainly understand not wanting to go to school and have everyone asking you the same question over and over....."What happened?"
Well, I ended up taking a couple of pictures of Kyle and sending them in an email to Steve at work with the subject line "Look who got in a fight!!!"
While I waited for Steve to call home with a "OMG" and to then explain it was an accident ~ just boys being boys!
Kyle was getting more and more worried about going to school in the morning and he mentioned he didn't want to talk to his dad about what happened because he didn't want his 'dad to get all weird about it'
Okay...I have to admit at this point I wasn't getting it. Yet.
Until Steve called home and we started talking about Kyle and how the accident happened and how he was acting now. Steve asked me "are you sure it wasn't a fight?" hmmmm The more we chatted the more convinced I was that Kyle wasn't telling the whole story. Steve even tried calling Kyle on his cell phone to talk to him but Kyle wouldn't answer....Kyle wasn't about to talk to his dad.
Something was up!!!
While I was on the phone, downstairs in the office, with Steve....Kyle calls me on his cell phone from his bedroom (yes, we are in the same house....yes I know it's insane) so I switch over to talk to him and he's doing the same stuff....
'don't want to talk to dad'
'don't want to go to school'
I then ask him 'Kyle did this happen while you were playing football or did you get in a fight?'
SILENCE!!!!!
I go right up to his bedroom and when he sees me he throws the covers over his head. I sit down on his bed and start talking to him, trying to convince him I'm not going to be mad and that I want him to tell me what happened....I need to know. He starts crying and tells me "No, you guys will think I'm a wimp." My heart just sank....I felt awful...I felt awful for him. This was tough!! My oldest son was in the room and he stopped playing games on his computer to listen and to talk to Kyle too.
We found out that he was playing basketball with his friends at 'R's & C's house (twins). Kyle and 'R' were on the same team when Kyle yelled at 'R' and told him he wasn't trying hard enough....
'R' told Kyle to
'Shut up!! You know I could beat the crap out of you'.....
they then started pushing each other and Kyle said he turned to walk away and that's when 'R' came up from behind him and shoved him to the ground hitting him in the face and kicking him in the back. Kyle said when he sat up that 'R' continued to kick him, kicking him in the head.
I'm furious and sick about this....I can tell Kyle is really upset and he's hurt...both physically but especially his feelings.
One thing that I can't believe happened is that after the fight....Kyle covered up what happened to 'R's' mom....he told me he didn't want 'R' to get in trouble!!! What is that all about???
Now Steve and Cam both are telling Kyle that he needs to go to school tomorrow and stand his ground with 'R' telling him it was a 'cheap shot' and if you want to fight let's fight.
OMG...okay...I understand about having to stand you're ground and not let this kid think he got the best of you...but to fight again?
Steve feels like something like this can change a kids life or how he see himself, his confidence, his reputation.
He remembers when he was about 11 his dad found out that the neighborhood bully had been mouthing off...giving Steve a tough time, so his dad marched him down to the park where the kid was and had them fight. Steve got the best of that kid and he's never forgotten it.
I'm worried about Kyle....he's a tough little guy and intense when it comes to a lot of things but he's very tender hearted. Tomorrow is going to be a tough day having to face this kid. I hope it's all about getting along and no more fighting....but Kyle coming out on top of this one!!
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OMG this sort of happened to Kameron... only the kid brought a few friends to help in the fight... so when we came outside they ran away... My hubby walked down to the kids house and said "You want a piece of him you do it fair and square no friends" then Kameron kicked his butt [they are not friends but have a weird respect for each other now] Everyone at school saw the shiner on Kameron and realized he is not afraid to fight and its never happened again... [I STILL DIDNT LIKE IT THO IT WAS SCARY] your guy is not a wimp - he was sucker punched & kicked but as mad as that makes you I would stay out of it... You can not fight their battles for the rest of their lives... so let them learn how to deal with it ... That is what I do anyway... if a Mom tries to engage me in it... I just say "Kids have a way of working things out if adults will stay out of it long enough but most parents won't let them" You will do what is right for you... because your a good Mom and they are good kids... Hang in there
Hugs with Love,
Kendra -
I haven't read the outcome yet.... and I have been slack on reading entries, so this will probably come way too late... lol
Anyway, I was just listening to some DJ's on the morning talkshow discussing this very thing. The guys said they have to fight or they'll be scarred for life and the woman DJ said no, they should just turn the other cheek.
I don't know what I'd do. I'd want to beat the kid up myself for hurting my son... but man this is a tough one. I don't want mine to fight... uggghhhh.
Okay... now to read the outcome. I'm sorry I haven't been reading to comment.
Love
Tracy -
Michele,
Things like this used to happen with my boys quite frequently. If it was between friends, I kind of stayed out of it, because I felt like "boys will be boys", and they need to work it out themselves. I do think it was wrong of the other boy to sucker punch Kyle like that... that was wrong, and Kyle probably needs to let the kid know that the next time he won't get off so easy.
At any rate, I'm sure you guys will figure it all out. Let us know how it goes!
Sorry about his eye.. :(
Jackie
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Please let us know how you handle this. My son is 14 and I'm expecting to have to deal with this issue anytime now.
Pam
5/18/06 3:30 AM
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