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Saturday, May 6, 2006
Thank you to all of you for your concern and especially for your advice in this incident with Kyle. I really appreciate hearing how other parents would handle it or how they feel about this kind of thing. THANK YOU!!
It's been an interesting few days since this all took place. A lot of emotion and frustration!!
The next morning we were trying to decide whether it was a good idea to send Kyle to school. His eye looked horrible.
I didn't want to send him to school, I just wanted to keep him home, comfort him and make sure he was okay. It was a tough decision but we decided that he needed to go to school and face the kid that did it and be able to defend his side of the story. If Kyle didn't show up we felt like the 'rumors' would start to circulate and who knows what would go around. Kyle seemed to be okay with going to school and we talked to him and told him he needed to tell it like it happened and not to be ashamed of it.
I worried about him ALL day long...it was awful wondering if he was okay and if he was handling it okay. I was miserable!
My husband ended up calling one of the high school coaches he knows to ask him his thoughts on if it was a smart thing to send Kyle back to school the next day. The coach said 'most definitely'! He said that the kids would have been talking all about it and it's good for Kyle to be there to show them he's okay....even if he looks like he's been beaten up.
Well...when I picked Kyle up from school he seemed to be doing pretty good....he told me the kids were pretty mad at what 'R' had done. I think it gave Kyle a boost to know his friends were concerned about him.
I ended up talking to the mother and letting her know what happened. She was upset and apologetic and she told me she would call me when she had a chance to talk to 'R' about what happened.
Luckily 'R's version was very close to what Kyle said happened. He admitted to kicking Kyle in the head.
My husband ended up talking to the mother and then the father about this too....letting them know we felt like this was a very serious situation and not normal fighting ~
Kicking someone when they are down on the ground and continually kicking them in the head....is serious and very violent. The father didn't say too much about this other than he wanted to get the other kids account of what went on....he wanted witness's to the fight. WHATEVER!!
The mother brought 'R' over to our house to apologize. It went okay...the boys sat on the couch and never looked at each other while 'R's mother talked to them.
We got them to apologize to each other and shake hands. It was awkward but I think it went well. I don't think they will be fast friends and that's fine....I'm just glad that they were able to say they were sorry to each other. Kyle apologized for 'making fun of him' and 'R' apologized for kicking and hitting him in the head.
Tonight the boys had a basketball game where they had to play together and we, the parents, had to sit in the stands and watch them. No, we didn't sit by the parents...but that's fine...I don't need to. They played the game and the boys' team won....it was a come from behind game and all seems to be okay.
Please let things be okay and we don't have anything like this happen again.
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Update and Thank You
Thank you to all of you for your concern and especially for your advice in this incident with Kyle. I really appreciate hearing how other parents would handle it or how they feel about this kind of thing. THANK YOU!!
It's been an interesting few days since this all took place. A lot of emotion and frustration!!
The next morning we were trying to decide whether it was a good idea to send Kyle to school. His eye looked horrible.
I didn't want to send him to school, I just wanted to keep him home, comfort him and make sure he was okay. It was a tough decision but we decided that he needed to go to school and face the kid that did it and be able to defend his side of the story. If Kyle didn't show up we felt like the 'rumors' would start to circulate and who knows what would go around. Kyle seemed to be okay with going to school and we talked to him and told him he needed to tell it like it happened and not to be ashamed of it.
I worried about him ALL day long...it was awful wondering if he was okay and if he was handling it okay. I was miserable!
My husband ended up calling one of the high school coaches he knows to ask him his thoughts on if it was a smart thing to send Kyle back to school the next day. The coach said 'most definitely'! He said that the kids would have been talking all about it and it's good for Kyle to be there to show them he's okay....even if he looks like he's been beaten up.
Well...when I picked Kyle up from school he seemed to be doing pretty good....he told me the kids were pretty mad at what 'R' had done. I think it gave Kyle a boost to know his friends were concerned about him.
I ended up talking to the mother and letting her know what happened. She was upset and apologetic and she told me she would call me when she had a chance to talk to 'R' about what happened.
Luckily 'R's version was very close to what Kyle said happened. He admitted to kicking Kyle in the head.
My husband ended up talking to the mother and then the father about this too....letting them know we felt like this was a very serious situation and not normal fighting ~
Kicking someone when they are down on the ground and continually kicking them in the head....is serious and very violent. The father didn't say too much about this other than he wanted to get the other kids account of what went on....he wanted witness's to the fight. WHATEVER!!
The mother brought 'R' over to our house to apologize. It went okay...the boys sat on the couch and never looked at each other while 'R's mother talked to them.
We got them to apologize to each other and shake hands. It was awkward but I think it went well. I don't think they will be fast friends and that's fine....I'm just glad that they were able to say they were sorry to each other. Kyle apologized for 'making fun of him' and 'R' apologized for kicking and hitting him in the head.
Tonight the boys had a basketball game where they had to play together and we, the parents, had to sit in the stands and watch them. No, we didn't sit by the parents...but that's fine...I don't need to. They played the game and the boys' team won....it was a come from behind game and all seems to be okay.
Please let things be okay and we don't have anything like this happen again.
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Hi, Michele......
I am so sorry about Kyle. That is so hard......
Teenagers, oh my.....
I wish kids came with instructions. But like I have said, no one has yet to tell me that parenting is easy. I am so sorry he and you all are having to deal with this.
It sounds like it did go will in school.
I hope the best for you all....
Take Care,
~BRIN -
I think that it was a wise choice to send him to school too and I am glad that the other parents acted like adults and talked to you. It was good for the boys to apologize too....Good deal!
hugs,
Kathi -
It sounds like you handled this incident very well. It could have turned out so different than it did. Sending Kyle back to school was the best thing to do. Kids will have an occasional fight, but this boy needs to know that one of his kicks to Kyle's head could so easily have killed the boy, or caused brain damage. I doubt the kid will do this again judging from the reaction of the kids at school. I'm glad you let the boy's parents know what took place. Let's hope there is some lessons learned from this in that household.
Sam -
You were SO RIGHT to send Kyle to school! Kids that age would have the rumor mill turn that story into Mike Tyson biting an ear off. Glad to hear it went as well as it did.
Tina
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5/15/06 10:59 AM
You handled it perfectly! I don't know about the Dad tho? Mom seems like she is doing the right thing... It won't happen again... Hasn't happened with my Kameron again... It is SO VERY HARD to deal with tho... you want to protect them.
Hang in there...
Hugs Kendra