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Ok everyone I'm getting to the part we stop talking for 6 years... First though... I want to tell you what kind of person Kim is... Kim is beautiful on the inside and outside... Prom Queen and a huge animal lover! She was always rescuing some poor animal! Nursing it back to health and then setting it free... mostly birds... a skunk during college, along with dogs and cats... 2 examples of her love of animals I will never forget... One summer she was traveling around the world on a graduation trip with her Mom, Dad, and brother... Wearing a ball gown somewhere in Europe ... she waded into a fountain to rescue a drowning hurt bird... When we were in 7th or 8th grade she found a bird with a hurt wing... She nursed amd cared for this bird for months... Finally it had healed enough to start flying again... One day she came to school looking sad "My bird died last night!" "Oh no!!! How?" [My mind imagined the dogs eating it or it died because of the injury... what came out of her mouth was "It flew into the toilet and drowned" I tried not to laugh but I couldn't help it... Never in my wildest dreams did I expect that!!! She has the biggest heart in the world... not just for animals either! She takes food and blankets to the homeless, has volunteered at a bird sanctuary, gives the mostthoughful loving gifts... you know the kind... something she remembered you saw and liked 8 months ago or a thing it took months to make... She writes letters in the most beautiful handwriting telling long stories you love reading... She lights up a room when she walks in and flashes that great smile! So what are the negatives? She can throw a mean temper tantrum which usually translate into "I don't feel loved or appreciated"... I think most Mom's temper tantrums translate into that... She also acts before thinking things through for a minute.. Reacts to Eric pushing her buttons... and he seems to know how to push them all right... She always needed to take a step back, figure out his motives, his games, but instead it seemed to me she just played right into his game of making her look crazy! Oh ya!!! I forgot to tell you... he is a private investigator - you know the kind who gets pictures of accident victims that say they can't go back to work but are photographed carrying couches up stairs [If he wanted a night out or a few days to go play with whoever and leave her with all the kids... then he would listen to her phone conversations ... tape them or listen while he was down the street] then use the info against her... Like maybe she bounced a check - huge fight- he always had money issues - but never had any problems with her family's money paying for EVERYTHING... If I said to a man with 2 small children to raise... "Hey let me set you up with my beautiful friend Kim, she will be a stay at home Mom and raise your boys, give you a home with an ocean, boat, and pool in the backyard, her family will send generous checks at Christmas and Holidays, she will send and pay for your children to go to private school, pay all medical, dental and orthodontics for you and kids and basically give you a very nice family life!!! Here is all you have to do... Love her... Ignore temper tantrums and hug her... Just make her feel like you appreciate everything and let her know she is doing a good job being a Mother & Wife... You can bring in an income in whatever amount that will be solely yours to keep with an occasional donation when she screws up the checking account... this will happen quite often because no one has taught her to be responsible with money and saving because her family is very wealthy [oh yes about your in-laws... they will be the most normal down to earth people you have ever met- not country club types - more like go on safari's in Africa or take family on the Disney Big Red Boat Cruise type and they will live in a huge estate in Hawaii and when you visit you will stay in the guest house... they hate interfering...So do you think maybe you might want to meet her?" Hello? why couldn't he kiss the ground she walked on! I don'tknow... Here was the last straw for me... 6 years ago... Eric's cell phone was somehow left on after a call with Kim... he was having lunch and flirting with some girl, getting her number or whatever and she heard the whole thing - she was furious... She was sick of his crap and wanted out! FINALLY! I thought... thank you god! Only guess what happened... he turned the whole thing around on her and made her look like a jealous stupid, idiot until she called me hysterically crying "I never should have accused him of that... he is sick of my accusing him of things and if I don't stop he's leaving me" I said "Kim please drive to a pay phone I need to tell you something and I am not going to do it while he listens to this conversation using a bug" I knew if she went back to him after I told her about her wedding day... I'd lose her as a friend... I would be the enemy... but I couldn't take it anymore... I tried to be supportive of her marriage but it just kept getting worse... When I told Kim the story she said she knew I was telling the truth... because of other things that had happened after the wedding but he always had a good excuse... She was going to get a divorce... She went to stay with friends... I prayed she would... Two weeks later she called to say she was pregnant... She was staying... I begged her not to... she did... It saddened me but I knew it was possible... That was six years ago... then her call came last weekend... They are going through a very nasty divorce, separated a year and a half, he lives with a model girlfriend and we picked up as if we had never stopped talking... By the way... if you were wondering where he went on his wedding night? He was doing the cocktail waitress from the "Family Cocktail Party" That is the story of the most BEAUTIFUL WEDDING FROM HELL I wished it had a fairy tale ending instead... Kim I have asked you to read my blog... I love you... you will get through this... try not to give him the power in pushing your buttons... write a journal... J-land people will help you get through this... many are living through a divorce right now - He has ruined your self esteem, left you feeling angry and unloved. I am here to help you pick up the pieces... Hugs with love, your best friend Kendra Thank you for reading this... reliving it... was so very hard for me to do...
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Ok everyone I'm getting to the part we stop talking for 6 years... First though... I want to tell you what kind of person Kim is... Kim is beautiful on the inside and outside... Prom Queen and a huge animal lover! She was always rescuing some poor animal! Nursing it back to health and then setting it free... mostly birds... a skunk during college, along with dogs and cats... 2 examples of her love of animals I will never forget... One summer she was traveling around the world on a graduation trip with her Mom, Dad, and brother... Wearing a ball gown somewhere in Europe ... she waded into a fountain to rescue a drowning hurt bird... When we were in 7th or 8th grade she found a bird with a hurt wing... She nursed amd cared for this bird for months... Finally it had healed enough to start flying again... One day she came to school looking sad "My bird died last night!" "Oh no!!! How?" [My mind imagined the dogs eating it or it died because of the injury... what came out of her mouth was "It flew into the toilet and drowned" I tried not to laugh but I couldn't help it... Never in my wildest dreams did I expect that!!! She has the biggest heart in the world... not just for animals either! She takes food and blankets to the homeless, has volunteered at a bird sanctuary, gives the mostthoughful loving gifts... you know the kind... something she remembered you saw and liked 8 months ago or a thing it took months to make... She writes letters in the most beautiful handwriting telling long stories you love reading... She lights up a room when she walks in and flashes that great smile! So what are the negatives? She can throw a mean temper tantrum which usually translate into "I don't feel loved or appreciated"... I think most Mom's temper tantrums translate into that... She also acts before thinking things through for a minute.. Reacts to Eric pushing her buttons... and he seems to know how to push them all right... She always needed to take a step back, figure out his motives, his games, but instead it seemed to me she just played right into his game of making her look crazy! Oh ya!!! I forgot to tell you... he is a private investigator - you know the kind who gets pictures of accident victims that say they can't go back to work but are photographed carrying couches up stairs [If he wanted a night out or a few days to go play with whoever and leave her with all the kids... then he would listen to her phone conversations ... tape them or listen while he was down the street] then use the info against her... Like maybe she bounced a check - huge fight- he always had money issues - but never had any problems with her family's money paying for EVERYTHING... If I said to a man with 2 small children to raise... "Hey let me set you up with my beautiful friend Kim, she will be a stay at home Mom and raise your boys, give you a home with an ocean, boat, and pool in the backyard, her family will send generous checks at Christmas and Holidays, she will send and pay for your children to go to private school, pay all medical, dental and orthodontics for you and kids and basically give you a very nice family life!!! Here is all you have to do... Love her... Ignore temper tantrums and hug her... Just make her feel like you appreciate everything and let her know she is doing a good job being a Mother & Wife... You can bring in an income in whatever amount that will be solely yours to keep with an occasional donation when she screws up the checking account... this will happen quite often because no one has taught her to be responsible with money and saving because her family is very wealthy [oh yes about your in-laws... they will be the most normal down to earth people you have ever met- not country club types - more like go on safari's in Africa or take family on the Disney Big Red Boat Cruise type and they will live in a huge estate in Hawaii and when you visit you will stay in the guest house... they hate interfering...So do you think maybe you might want to meet her?" Hello? why couldn't he kiss the ground she walked on! I don'tknow... Here was the last straw for me... 6 years ago... Eric's cell phone was somehow left on after a call with Kim... he was having lunch and flirting with some girl, getting her number or whatever and she heard the whole thing - she was furious... She was sick of his crap and wanted out! FINALLY! I thought... thank you god! Only guess what happened... he turned the whole thing around on her and made her look like a jealous stupid, idiot until she called me hysterically crying "I never should have accused him of that... he is sick of my accusing him of things and if I don't stop he's leaving me" I said "Kim please drive to a pay phone I need to tell you something and I am not going to do it while he listens to this conversation using a bug" I knew if she went back to him after I told her about her wedding day... I'd lose her as a friend... I would be the enemy... but I couldn't take it anymore... I tried to be supportive of her marriage but it just kept getting worse... When I told Kim the story she said she knew I was telling the truth... because of other things that had happened after the wedding but he always had a good excuse... She was going to get a divorce... She went to stay with friends... I prayed she would... Two weeks later she called to say she was pregnant... She was staying... I begged her not to... she did... It saddened me but I knew it was possible... That was six years ago... then her call came last weekend... They are going through a very nasty divorce, separated a year and a half, he lives with a model girlfriend and we picked up as if we had never stopped talking... By the way... if you were wondering where he went on his wedding night? He was doing the cocktail waitress from the "Family Cocktail Party" That is the story of the most BEAUTIFUL WEDDING FROM HELL I wished it had a fairy tale ending instead... Kim I have asked you to read my blog... I love you... you will get through this... try not to give him the power in pushing your buttons... write a journal... J-land people will help you get through this... many are living through a divorce right now - He has ruined your self esteem, left you feeling angry and unloved. I am here to help you pick up the pieces... Hugs with love, your best friend Kendra Thank you for reading this... reliving it... was so very hard for me to do...
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What a story. I hope it worked out OK for Kim. If she comes from money then she should be able to have her fam. get her out of this mess. I hope they did.
Wonderful entries.
Barb http://journals.aol.com/queenb8261/DiaryofaMadwoman/ -
Way to go, Kendra... You sound like a wonderful, supportive friend. She will do fine, having people like you in her life. Tell her to hang in there...... this, too, shall pass... and then she can move on to bigger and better things. Take care, Tina p.s. I enjoyed looking at all the pictures you posted !!
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Oh now I know why she was with him...she likes to nurse animals back to health! hehe! <sorry!>
Lori -
Hopefully KIM will tkae your advice and join us! She could definatley use the support.
Kara :)
11/5/06 1:14 PM
My God, what a story......a soap opera! I hope your friend finds love again.....this asshole she was/is married to sure is a loser. She deserves much better and i hope she knows what a jewel you are!
XO lisa jo