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Happy Valentine's Day Y'all!!
I hope everyone out there has someone to love today, someone who will make them feel special. Yes, if you were all near I'd give you great big hugs n kisses BUT
I won't share my chocolate!!!! The only one's I would give up are the cream center ones - yuk!!
Bossman came in with his usual gift of Russell Stover's for me. I gave him movie tickets - his birthday was last Saturday and it's V-day too. He's a sweetie.
Hubby said he mailed something to the house, of course I'm not there to get it. He called this morning wishing me a Happy Day. I said of course that I appreciated that and would have also liked hugs and kisses, but I'd take the phone call.
Miss T....er Roxy T has a sore throat AGAIN!
Noooooooooooooooooo!
Not with competition starting tomorrow!!
Gotta get that baby well!
Speaking of hubby and his call.
We've talked as you know and he's working on the game plan.
His "proposal" is to come home on the 20th as scheduled with "bells on and a new attitude".
He wants to slow down and stop jumping into the conversation without hearing everything first; he wants to be a better listener - which he was actually attempting recently on the phone.
Also needs to stop feeling inadequate about his role in our life. Tom claims that when I come home he feels like a school kid that has something to hide, even though he's innocent.
Wonder why that is?
He says he is always afraid he's done something wrong...or has failed to do something, maybe he forgot.
I will admit that if I've said it FOUR TIMES I would expect you to understand and commit it to memory.
Write it on the calendar.
BUT..........not all things are majorly earth shattering. And he has to stop acting as if forgetting them will cause WW 2008! I mean he really gets himself all worked up over small things, actually to the point of slamming his hand on the dash and saying "f" or "dammit", getting that wrinkled forehead that says I'm pissed off....I have said to him recently "Stop it's done, there's nothing you can do about it now". (So what he forgot to bring the laundry - it can be done tomorrow --- I don't do my light colors at home!)
So here's where I need all y'allz help.
What list should I propose to him?
I know the obvious items, drinking less; drinking and NOT driving; no drugs for crying out loud that's just STUPID!
Respect for ME; Miss er Roxy T and the family.
He has to stop treating us like we were the enemy.
We need to have more fun --- more family fun time.
He has really enjoyed touring with his bro -- they went to an aircraft museum. I pointed out to him that when I mention doing this he complains "my knee"....but why is it OK to go with bro and not us??? Hmmm.
I know he's depressed.....bored....but that's his own fault since he won't get up and do anything about it. Maybe 10 days with bro will show him that just getting out of the house for a bit everyday will help the mindset.
I am wishing for a new and improved Tommy as you can tell. He's too great of a guy normally to let himself get all caught up in the "wrong crowd" of life. He has a heart of gold.........but the mindset of a 12 yr old at times. The days of living carefree and wreckless were over many years ago for him....time to act his age.
Love you all on this day and always!!
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Sharon,
Sure hope things will work out and hope you are having a happy valentine's weekend and spoiling yourself! Love and hugs to you and Roxy T, Martha :-) -
I hope that it all works out when Tom comes home. Stand firm!
Take care
L -
I think your list covers it all. There has to be no drinking. People with that problem can't just have one or two. Doesnt work.
hugs
Ellen -
Happy Valentines (belated!) I would have to vote for NO drinking/drugs. It's my opinion that a person with a problem cannot use just a little. i think the drinking thing, even if it starts out "innocently" seems to lead to big and bad things with hubby.
Hope things are better when he gets home!!
hugs
Melissa
2/23/08 11:07 PM