Coastal Comfort

"D"............that's what came home on Miss T's interim report card for "not turning in spelling/writing work".

Say what?

This is the first year she's ever had anything less than a "B" on her report card.    "C" in Math and in Social Studies.

Needless to say she's in deep dooo dooo.

No computer/webkins time;

No TV;

No friends over etc.

Tom said I was being harsh if I didn't let her go to the birthday party this Saturday (of a dance friend)....after all, the friend is requesting her to attend. 

OK Fine she can go, but nothing else.

She called me today to say she knew she had done the work and she had found it in her notebook.....now can I watch TV?

NO!

Not until the teacher tells me you have improved.

Gotta stick to my guns on this one.

Miss T tried blaming it on "the situation at home".

Now, that is NOT normally the way she would talk.

Yes, maybe our conflicts have affected her, but she is rule oriented and would not have NOT done the work....just not turned it in, said it was because the teacher didn't "ask" for it.

I told her that you have to be responsible and turn it in yourself in case the teacher doesn't ask for it.....that way you're sure.

I think there is an underlying issue.  Because of her choice of words.  I think the words were "given" to her as what to say is wrong.

Anyone ever been manipulated?  Or felt like it was happening to you?

I have.  I just can't explain it in this journal.  Not yet.

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• #20 Comment from cacklinrosie101 
  3/2/08 12:04 PM | Permalink

  Manipulated, moi?  But, of course.  LOL..didn't you know that children are some of the best at perpetrating manipulations around?  Actually, my son was not as bad as the girls.  Hmmm....makes ya wonder how a girl thinks she can pull the same stuff on mom.  Guess they never think we were ever young.  HUGS Chris
• #19 Comment from luddie343 
  2/29/08 11:14 PM | Permalink

  Rasied 2 typical young ones, still remember the first time I realized my son was manipulative.  Yet it's natural I think, at certain ages.  Sharon I applaud your stance and hope you keep to it, so she'll understand there are boundaries and respect them.  Helps in later life.  I give her points on creativity tho lol!! CATHY
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• #18 Comment from springangel235 
  2/29/08 4:37 PM | Permalink

  I hope those grades start going back up and you are right to correct the issues.  All will work out.  Have a lovely weekend...hugs and love,
  Joyce
• #17 Comment from queeniemart 
  2/28/08 9:08 AM | Permalink

  hmm..the teens are coming ,right? Kids are a puzzle that is hard to figure out sometimes. I dont think you are being too strict. Kids need structure.
  LOVE YOU
  
  lisa
• #16 Comment from jckfrstross 
  2/27/08 10:32 PM | Permalink

  all kids go through this, some never out grow this stage but miss T will learn from her mistake. i hope that nothing else is going on
  
  Deb