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Hearing Holes in the floor of heaven (cd I made for funeral)
Dave's Mom Passed
Dave's mom has been very ill. Lung cancer. And even tho she had a sense of humor about leaving, that her work was done, that she was tired, that she wanted to be with her husband, and that she wanted a going away party and wanted to be buried with her rolling pin and her hair net, after making piergoies, her being ready didnt really make it easier for any of us.
I had my kids on Monday and I was going to take them to the zoo. So glad that someone needed me to watch mom, as I took the kids there and that was the last time she got to see them. She loved my kids as they were her own, and for that I am grateful. My ex's mom was not the same way to my kids.
We spent the last nite, she spent in her house with her, Tues nite.
Dave took yesterday off and I am so glad he did, as he got more time with her.
I went with him before I went to work, and I wanted to call off really bad, but I didnt. She was asking about me the night before last, when I was at work. So I leaned in and said. "hey young lady, I hear you were asking about me" and then she took her finger and beeped my nose and smiled.
I lost it at that point. A family friend came in and said a Virgin Mary Novena, basically telling her when She comes, to fly to Her.
Again, many tears.
I got the call from Dave that she passed at around 755pm. She signed hospice papers a mere 2 hrs before and was waiting for a bed there. She was very independent and did NOT want her financial affairs gone thru, as hospice was saying they had to do for her admission. She flat out said they werent gonna do it!!
Well, she got her wish!!!!!!!!!!!! She always was stubborn!
My sister in law was with her, no real family. I believe she didnt want her kids with her. I feared she was going to be alone when it happened, but my SIL was there.
She was praying really hard, asking for the Lord to take her. My SIL was praying with her too. She took a couple deep breaths and was gone.
Alert till the end, and no pain.
I called my supervisor and she came in for me so I could leave to be with Dave. With my days off, I dont go back till Friday.
Hospice chaplain was there, and we sat there with her body and prayed.
We all went to her house afterwards and cleaned it up a bit, as the brothers and sisters will be reading her letter to them upon her death on arrangements and what she wanted.
I know she is up there polka-ing with her husband now.
Just wanted to let you know. Hope the ex isnt a jerk about letting the kids come for the funeral.
xoox Donna
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Hello. I hopped over from "Sam's Journal" to visit your site, and I'm just so sorry to read about your loss. My condolences.
Sincerely,
Michelle
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Donna,
It sounds like Dave's mom had a very peaceful death. She sounds as though she faced death as she lived. She gave all around her a final gift of teaching about death.
yes it is a sad time and full of feelings. Happy for her but sad for the empty place her leaving made in everyones hearts.
Be gentle on your self grief lasts much longer than people ever expect. I am a bereavemt counselor and see the ups and downs that people go through, even with peaceful deaths. Dave will need your frinedship rom time to time.
Peace Be With You,
Michele -
Hey Donna...
sorry for the loss of your mother-in-law. I will say some prayers for you & Dave.
Love, Samantha
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Donna,
I'm so sorry for you and your family. I know the pain you are going through. My daddy passed away on June 28th and I'm having a very difficult time with it. My prayers go out to you and yours. Hold each other and love one another and just remember what you said about her being in Heaven, polka-ing with her husband. The fact that my Daddy is in Heaven and now part of God's choir gives me great comfort.
Tracy
10/3/05 8:41 AM